From physics lessons we know that particles with different charges attract each other. The relationship between the male and female sexes is comparable to this phenomenon. There was a rapprochement; for some, it may have ended in marriage. But for some reason the particles begin to repel each other. And this is no longer physics. How to behave with a man so that he himself is drawn to a woman, psychology will help you figure this out.
How to behave so that a man is afraid of losing?
In order for the relationship between a man and a woman to be long-lasting and bring satisfaction to both, let’s turn to psychology: how to behave with a man. Some girls think that the crown of a relationship is marriage. It's a delusion. Girls, even if this happiness happened, it’s too early to relax.
At the genetic level, every man is a hunter. Here the bird is caught, put in a cage, he enjoys it. But time passes, and our hunter begins to get bored: he wants a new bird. What to do to make a man afraid of losing you, there are some tricks here.
So what kind of woman is a man afraid of losing? On the one hand, you will have to keep your loved one in good shape, turn on the bitch so that there are no thoughts that he is now your master, and on the other hand, you need to envelop him with attention and warmth so that he needs your presence. The combination of two opposites will show how developed your feminine wisdom is.
Try to fit into his standards
One of the most common behavior patterns looks like “victim-tyrant”. A man decides what a woman should wear, how to dye her hair, which friends to communicate with - everything is dictated. And all this, of course, is wrapped in a wrapper: “I love you.” A man can call and control a lot, but a woman will silently endure it all for fear of being left without a partner.
It is this fear that makes girls behave this way. For example: a couple comes to a cosmetologist and it feels as if the man had brought a sheep to the slaughter. He decides what size, what and where it will grow, as he wants. And it's terrible.
Fear of loneliness, fear of loss, turns a woman into a weak-willed doll. Can you imagine what will happen to her over time? With her feelings? In such circumstances, personality dissolves. There is no “I”, no right to vote.
The partner is fully responsible for her life, even for her appearance. Because he is responsible, it looks like he cares. In reality, she has no right to choose. As soon as she opens her beautiful, pumped mouth, he will say: “I support and feed you, close your mouth back.”
How to behave with a man: basic rules
The psychology of relationships teaches the rules of how to behave with a man so that he appreciates and respects his chosen one.
- The mistake that people in love make is to completely dissolve in their admirer. The main thing is not to overdo it. It's a rare man who can withstand such attention. You need to give him time to be away from your company. A couple of calls a day is the ceiling. Switch your attention from your man to other things. If you're not working, find a hobby. Remember, you were doing something before he appeared. Improve your level of education, go to trainings, visit your friends. If you don’t annoy your significant other all day long, and your free time is spent on self-improvement, a man will not want to lose such a companion. Just remember to prepare dinner in time.
- Men are the strong half of humanity, but they also need support. They just want to get it not from friends, but from their significant other. But in order not to appear weak, they do not always share their problems. Be interested in his affairs, admire his achievements and empathize with his failures. Don’t become his vest; if you show a momentary weakness, he may not forgive you later for witnessing it. Show your partner that, despite temporary difficulties, together you will find a way out of them.
- Keep your appearance on point. For a man to be afraid of losing you, you will have to always be well-groomed. Even if over the years your waist has increased by several centimeters, and wrinkles have appeared in the corners of your eyes, everything is in your hands. A woman who knows how to take care of herself and attracts the gaze of other men will want to be kept with her.
- Don't cause jealousy and don't be jealous yourself. Some girls resort to such tactics, flirting, thereby provoking their man. Avoid such provocations, even if once you got away with it and you stroked your ego, then another time it may end in a break in the relationship. The same applies if you show jealousy. A man will only experience irritation from such manifestations. Psychologists have proven that jealousy is characteristic of people who are not confident in themselves. But this is not about you. Be self-sufficient and he won't want to lose you.
- Don't criticize him for being financially insolvent (in your opinion). Constant attacks in this direction can become a stumbling block in your relationship. Show tact in this matter and discuss together how to improve your financial situation. A man will appreciate that you are not with him for the sake of self-interest, and love is more valuable to you than money.
- Don't waste your relationship on resentment and squabbles. Learn to be in a good mood. Smile more often. Use your charisma to the fullest. It is pleasant for anyone to be with such a person, including your companion.
If in your entire life you have not yet had a truly happy and harmonious relationship, or they all ended very quickly, you need to look for the reason in yourself. This could be excessive sacrifice due to self-doubt, or fear of loneliness. Then the help of a specialist is needed, for example, psychologist-hypnologist Nikita Valerievich Baturin.
How to make any man fall in love with you - a practical guide
To begin with, I will tell you a popular way to fall in love, which does not work. You need to know the working and non-working (popular) schemes of falling in love, so as not to make unnecessary mistakes.
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A broken but popular way to fall in love
Many people believe that the state of falling in love appears according to the following scheme:
- There are reasons to fall in love (pheromones, spark, etc.);
- An emotional state of falling in love arises;
- A person performs actions that people in love usually do (courts, takes care, gives gifts, etc.);
Girls try to make a man feel amorous, which will encourage him to show signs of attention.
BUT - this method will not work!
Because you will never know what processes in a man’s head caused the state of falling in love. The man himself does not know this. He can only adjust the answer to his emotions, and the real reason why the girl hooked him is unknown to him.
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If men knew why they fell in love, then they would always fall in love with their ideal. But this does not happen, very often a man understands on a logical level that he can suffer with this girl, and despite this he still loves her.
Conclusion: the man is not aware of the process of forming feelings in his head. And accordingly, you don’t know what can affect his emotions.
How the average girl tries to make a man fall in love with her:
- Tries to be unusual;
- Interesting;
- Charismatic;
- Wants to be liked;
- Tries to make you fall in love with yourself;
And what happens to a girl who acts according to such a scheme? She begins to concentrate on the man herself and thinks about how to get him. And concentration is love. Those. She does not make a person fall in love with her actions, but she herself falls in love with him.
What a man thinks when you try to invest in him: “It’s great that they invest in me.” And what does he do? - Nothing, he does not perform any actions. Those. doesn't concentrate on you.
Conclusion: trying to please, impress or meet the ideal of a man is an unworkable scheme that we will not use.
A working way to make you fall in love with yourself
Now we’ll talk about methods that are effective.
How to make a person obsess over you? You need to make sure that the man begins to take actions towards you. Actions that a person in love performs.
Proven fact! Suppose there is a man in your environment who communicates with you, but does not feel love for you. If he starts doing things for you that are typical of a man in love, he will fall head over heels.
I checked this fact on myself. I had a girlfriend that I wasn't in love with. I was attracted to her only sexually, I did not experience deep feelings. When we started dating, I started doing things that people in love do. Helped her with everything, gave her flowers/gifts, wrote to her, thought about her, took care of her, etc. And over time, I fell in love with a girl who didn’t light me up from the very beginning.
Why is this happening?
Firstly, when a man performs the right (for you) actions towards you, his brain begins to concentrate. Those. I started concentrating on that girl. And this is love.
Secondly, the brain tries to tailor the response to the actions we take.
Based on what was written above, we conclude: Your task is to provoke an impulse in a man that will encourage him to start pursuing you and take actions to achieve this goal.
What you need from a man is that he:
- I didn't want to lose you;
- I thought about you very often;
- He cared and helped;
- Appreciated you;
- He often called and wrote;
- Confessed his feelings;
- The list can be continued endlessly, the main meaning is clear.
But there is one “but” that can ruin all your plans!
When you set yourself the goal of falling in love with a person, you concentrate on him. And accordingly, you yourself begin to fall in love. You may start doing illogical and emotional things. Your emotions can ruin the whole process.
What to do about it?
You shouldn't focus on just one person. You must charm not only this man, but also others (and then choose the best among them). If you don’t get hung up on one man, but distract your brain with work, girlfriends/friends or other men, then your love will not come prematurely.
Now let's look in detail at how to provoke a man to take the right actions.
1. Doesn't want to lose you
The man’s actions: he is afraid that your communication may stop. And he begins to take actions to prevent this from happening.
How to implement? Create an image in his head that many men simply dream of getting you. Let him think that they are all fighting for your attention.
“I’m so upset, today two of my work colleagues quarreled.” As it turns out, they are both in love with me. I was so surprised. After all, my relationship with any of them is impossible! (This is one of many options, you can choose any one that will be congruent with your personality)
Another option (we use it when a man demonstrates inappropriate behavior towards you)
- Your behavior is little by little killing my warm feelings that I feel for you!
With this phrase you hint to the man that he risks losing your affection. And he will understand that this is due to his wrong behavior towards you.
2. Constantly thinking about you
Actions of a man: he thinks about you, wants to see you, calls, writes messages.
How to implement? There is one very interesting way that will make a man think about you. I already wrote about it in one of my articles, but now I’ll repeat it.
Method "Perfume"
Let's imagine that you are visiting a man. Just scent his pillow with your perfume (preferably it is of high quality and the scent lasts for a long time). And before you leave his house, say: “Every night when you fall asleep, you will think about me.”
From now on, the man, laying his head on the pillow, will inhale the smell of your perfume and remember you and your moments together.
It doesn't have to be a pillow. You can perfume any item that a man uses often (preferably every day). It could be a diary, notepad, book. (The main thing is not to spray it on his clothes; a man will not survive the aroma of women’s perfume on his clothes)
3. Cares and helps
Actions of a man: take care of you and your safety, help, show signs of attention.
Method of implementation: you can provoke a man’s actions with the help of a legend.
Tell the man that the other guy is blocking you. Let him play the role of your boyfriend so that the obsessive guy will see and leave. Let the man accompany you home, for example. And also, for the sake of appearance, he kissed. And so, step by step, the man begins to invest, and this is exactly what we need.
4. Declaration of love
This is perhaps one of the most important actions a man must take.
Actions of a man: confesses his love (even if it’s just for fun).
Method of implementation: a high-quality legend that will make a man say that he loves you.
Information about the legend for confessing feelings is contained in the article: How to make a man run after you (opens in a new tab)
5. Thinks about how to make you fall in love
Actions of a man: his brain thinks about the ways in which he can get you.
You already remember that falling in love is the concentration of a person’s thoughts on you. You need to make sure that thoughts arise in his head about how to get you. And then he will begin to fixate on you, in other words, to concentrate.
Implementation method
Just ask a man a question:
“How do you think you could make me fall in love with you? What should you do to make me fall in love?
And then let him share his options with you. And add: “It will work!” But this is not!
With questions like these, we trigger thought viruses in a man’s head that paint the right pictures in his imagination. And his brain sets the task: “I must make her fall in love with me” and begins to concentrate on solving it.
Ps You can also come up with your own options that will make a man think about how to get you. You can adapt every practical piece of advice I wrote above to suit your needs. My task was to convey the meaning and basic principles of falling in love techniques.
How to behave correctly so that a man shows masculine qualities?
How to behave correctly with your husband will help you understand the psychology of a man. Use this trump card.
There is a imbalance in relationships that can destroy them. This is when a woman takes on a lot of responsibilities. These types of people include women who are overly confident. Don't forget, ladies, that you are the weaker sex. Play along with your partner that you cannot cope with this or that problem without his participation. It doesn’t matter that you can replace a broken tire or screw in a light bulb yourself. Entrust this to your chosen one, be sure to thank him for his help. And in general, men, like little children, need to be praised more often. Again, without extremes, so that the crown does not grow, and he does not imagine himself indispensable.
Be tolerant of his weaknesses, do not forget to emphasize his strengths (remember the golden mean). If you do everything right, your man will be inspired by the fact that you are proud of him and need him like a strong shoulder.
Having a baby to strengthen your relationship
A child must be born in a space of love. What can a woman give him if she denies him, doesn’t really want him, is not ready for his appearance? But in order not to lose the man, she thinks: “I’ll give birth to his child, because he really wants it.” This unpreparedness will sooner or later develop into discontent and may even lead to conflict.
The first step would be to sit down and deal with the problems in your relationship. Understand why there is no such desire. And only then discuss with the man and say: “I should carry and give birth, right? What if I don’t have internal, psychological, emotional readiness, and I’m scared? Help me, create such conditions for me to have this desire.”
Decisions made based on the fear of losing a partner will not bring peace and will not unite the family. “Do what he wanted, and if you don’t do it, he will leave” - this is not normal. No child can glue a family together. It's not glue. The child is either the fruit of your love, a seed that grows on the basis of a good relationship, or will work out violent scenarios in his future life.
It happens that a child comes not as a fruit of love, but unexpectedly. When adults didn't think that sex makes children. And this is not his, the child’s, responsibility? What became not the fruit of love, but a fiend? This is a terrible fate for a child.
How does a man truly in love behave?
If a woman is in love, then it is immediately noticeable to everyone around her. It's not so simple with men. A man in love, especially at the initial stage, will carefully disguise his feelings. And if passions may boil inside him, then outwardly this may not manifest itself in any way.
You can't fool a girl's heart. There are some signs by which it is easy to determine whether a gentleman feels sympathy and how strong it is:
- the first thing that gives a man away is the way he looks at you;
- your partner agrees with you in everything;
- touches you often;
- lovers are characterized by unusual actions;
- desire to impress you.
A man in love will devour you with his eyes, watch all your movements, but as soon as you look at him, he will look away. He will agree with you in everything, every comment you make will be like a balm for his soul. A lover asks for your opinion and listens to it. Every event associated with you arouses interest and active participation.
He wants to touch you and cannot restrain these impulses. Your presence makes him happy: his eyes glow, a smile on his face, a good mood.
But as soon as the object of love disappears from sight, the young man’s mood deteriorates, this is accompanied by irritability and a nervous state. His imagination draws pictures that the lady of his heart might go to someone else.
If you are communicating with someone and you are not looking at him at that moment, he begins to produce some noise effects: he laughs loudly or coughs.
He catches your eye more and more often, for example, he suddenly appears in a store you go into, while pretending that this is an accident.
A person in love presents pleasant surprises, and they are truly unexpected for you. For this to work, he knows your preferences in advance.
When talking to you, he may pull the hair on the back of your head, thus relieving anxiety.
Well, a trick that lovers often resort to is asking them to tie a tie or remove a speck from their eye.
Some people shine with knowledge or make jokes, but there are also those who become very serious and even embarrassed.
Secrets of communicating with men
I will describe the most popular questions that concern any girl at the beginning of a relationship.
What to ask
I recommend talking about topics about profession, studies, hobbies and future plans for life. You can also talk about your favorite books, sports or animals. But you shouldn’t touch on “female” topics and love affairs in the early stages.
How to make a silent person talk
This is not an easy task, but the problem can be solved. Find out what his interests are: with the help of mutual friends or subscriptions to groups on social networks. If you are not knowledgeable in this area, then read the information. As you communicate, intentionally steer the conversation in the right direction. So, you will create comfortable conditions for a man, and he will be able to talk about his hobbies without stopping.
How to talk to a guy and keep the conversation going
To do this, you need to learn to ask the right questions. Avoid phrases that require a one-word answer of “yes” or “no,” otherwise you will quickly end up in awkward silence. And detailed formulations, on the contrary, will help to find other topics.
Also, make it a habit not to interrupt your interlocutor, even if you want to insert a word into the story. After all, cutting off mid-sentence means showing bad manners. In addition, you can lose the thread of the conversation, and you will not be able to find anything else to discuss when this topic is exhausted.
Ask a question
What to do if your boyfriend suddenly stops interacting
There may be many reasons for this: a new passion, loss of interest, difficulties in the service. But since, psychologically, guys are hunters, as soon as they conquer an object, they refuse to contact it.
Many men perceive falling in love as another victory, and again go looking for another victim. Therefore, during the period of communication, it is worth keeping him at a distance and fueling the fuse with changes from showing attention to indifference.
How to make contact
You should listen carefully to your interlocutor and try to understand the essence of the conversation. Don't try to show off your best side and show your intelligence through long monologues and stories about your successes and virtues. It’s better to learn how to easily communicate with men, because that’s what they look for in their chosen ones. Therefore, give up negative dialogues and discuss only good news.
How to talk about the future
The main thing is not to be persistent when talking about frankness, otherwise it will scare the guy away. But if you carefully guide him in the right direction, the partner will open up and become sincere. Start with small topics: vacation plans, goals for the near future. And then ask leading questions on the topic of interest.
How to delicately refuse communication
If the gentleman is too touchy, then you should not directly state this. It is better to keep interaction to a minimum: answer politely and not be active. Monosyllabic phrases will speed up the end of the conversation.
How to contact your ex
If you start communicating again, it is important not to remember past disappointments and grievances. Dissatisfaction, complaints and comments can provoke a quarrel. There is no need to sort things out, otherwise the hostility will only intensify.
How to Talk to a Married Gentleman
In such communication, subordination should be observed. Light flirting, hints and ambiguous jokes are a bad position. In this case, the man will think that you are hoping to become his mistress.
How to have a dialogue about children
There is one rather old joke about how to spot a real bachelor: tell him that you love him very much and want a child from him. But girls should understand that after meeting, it is not advisable to discuss with him what they will name the baby. Otherwise it can be intimidating.
It’s difficult even for experienced dating people to have a conversation about this. We come from afar, but better yet, show by actions that you are ready for offspring.
How should you behave with a man after sex?
Due to their gender differences, women’s desires after intimacy differ from men’s. Ladies want to continue to be admired, stroked or cuddled. They need confirmation of their attractiveness. Subconsciously, they want to receive protection after part of the energy has been given and a loss of strength has occurred. If you are not yet married, then a woman’s desire for you to be nearby after sex arises from uncertainty about whether the chosen one actually has feelings for her, or whether he is with her only to sleep with her.
What happens to men after intimacy? The psychologist's advice will help you understand how to deal with a man after sex, so that your relationship develops and lasts as long as you want.
- During intimacy, a man burns a lot of calories, so his body requires the restoration of these losses. There is a desire to eat and go to sleep.
- Men also have complexes; it is important for them to hear that he is a hero in bed. Just don't say he's the best. This word implies comparison and can cause a storm of unwanted emotions. Say that you had a very good time.
- Don’t run away immediately after sex, stay close and let your partner enjoy the smell of your body.
- Heroes need to be celebrated. Thank your partner by giving him something tasty in bed, or giving him a relaxing massage.
- If you do not yet live under the same roof, even if your meeting has been delayed, you need to sleep, dear ladies, at home.
- A budding relationship can be ruined by your questions like: when we see each other, what time will you call me? Young ladies, these are not your questions, he should ask them to you.
- Both during and after sex, act naturally. This is captivating and relieves tension.
- Well, there’s no need to be disingenuous, like: it was just sex, nothing more. You understand, if you find yourself together, then you like him and you want the relationship to develop.
To be always desirable for your man, you need to constantly work on yourself. Maintain attractiveness, educate yourself, control emotions, show wisdom. Not easy. But this is the key to a long, happy relationship.
Solve his problems
It happens that a woman starts slipping smart books to her partner, with bookmarks in the right places, finding the right people, getting him a job, using her connections - after all, girls are so good at negotiating. Now imagine how a man feels when he is led like this? He feels not like a lion, but like a calf or a donkey, trailing behind a female guiding star.
The woman has taken the place of the strong, the place of the head in the family and rules it all. She screams, makes claims, constantly asks questions: “Why is everything on me? Why doesn’t anyone want to strive for anything?” Yes, because she is the helmsman. She doesn't believe in a man. He doesn't believe he can handle it on his own. She asks: “How is this possible? He has arms, legs, a head, but for some reason he can’t find a job.” What does this mean?
She looks at him from a top-down position. She is an all-powerful lady, and men are gnomes, incapable of anything. But the secret is that a strong man will never choose a woman to lead him, he will simply bring her to her knees. And the result is war. After all, she won't want to kneel. With this model of behavior, she will never have a relationship with a strong man.
Rules for first dates
First time with a guy, how to behave
If you have a first date planned, then try not to be late, adding excitement not only to the young man, but also to yourself. Think in advance about what clothes you will wear. Make sure that the items are in perfect condition and do not require washing, ironing or minor repairs. It will not be very good if, before going out, you realize that there is some defect on the chosen garment. Your task is to be confident this evening, and hasty preparations will do little to help this.
Also decide on the location of the first date. It is not advisable to invite a guy home or go to visit him yourself. This type of date may involve intimacy, and if you are not ready to take your romance to the next level so quickly, choose a walk in the park or an evening in a cozy cafe.
What to talk about with a guy when you're out for a walk
Support the topics he touches on. Ask counter questions, show that you are interested in being in his company. If he asks you any questions, answer in detail, without skimping on emotions. If the guy is silent, then you can also provoke some topics of conversation - about sports, favorite foods, favorite places to hang out, interesting films and much more.
Try to behave naturally and at ease - there is no need to laugh inappropriately for no reason or reason. If you see that the interlocutor is not very willing to support the topic you set, it is best to change it to another. To avoid awkward pauses, before the date, decide for yourself what questions you would like to clarify.
How to behave correctly to get a guy to like you
Be sweet and charming. Let the young man know that you like him. Show concern for him, flirt with him, be interested in his opinion. It is important that the young man feels significant next to you. Undoubtedly, this feeling will cause warm emotions in him, and he will again and again look for a meeting with you.
How to communicate with a guy who loves you
There are two options here, and they depend on whether you have reciprocal feelings for the young man. If you understand that you also love him, but do not yet dare to say about it, then at least show the young man your affection.
If you do not have reciprocal sympathy for the guy, then try to behave delicately towards him. Explain to him that you are very flattered by his attention, and you did not expect such feelings from him, but, unfortunately, your heart is occupied or you are not yet ready for a relationship. Don’t force the guy to live with empty hopes - immediately indicate that you do not reciprocate his feelings.
How to be alone with a guy and what to do next
If you are left alone with your boyfriend, then such a situation is very conducive to more frank communication. If earlier your dates took place in crowded places, then wanting privacy, you can invite him to your home for a romantic dinner. Please note that a guy can interpret such an invitation in his own way - for him it will be something akin to a “green light” that allows him to behave more actively, seducing you. If you are not yet ready for intimacy with your boyfriend, then it is advisable to avoid such solitude.
However, if you are still alone, behave simply and naturally - get rid of possible tension in advance that could be transferred to your chosen one. You can invite your loved one to watch an interesting movie together or just have a heart-to-heart talk over dinner and a glass of wine. Solitude presupposes a romantic mood, so if you decide to invite a young man to your home, do not refuse your lover hugs and kisses, because the situation is more than conducive to such behavior.
How to kiss a guy to make him fall in love
With a kiss, you can really awaken some pretty strong emotions in your lover. A simple kiss on the lips will probably excite him, but you will achieve a much greater effect if you “combine” your kisses. So, you are left alone, how to kiss a guy so that he remembers it for a long time?
Try to start with this area, which is incredibly sensitive. While talking or watching a movie, put your head on the guy's shoulder, then move your lips to his neck and kiss it. Note that we are talking about the area just below the ears. Such kisses can be combined with light, barely noticeable bites. You can accompany your actions with a joke that your boyfriend smells so amazing that you are ready to “eat” him.
After this, you can move on to a passionate kiss on the lips. Note that the palate is a rather sensitive area, so the guy will experience a very pleasant sensation if you run your tongue across the palate a couple of times.
