Tyrant boss: how to behave, deliverance, signs

Relationships with managers play an important role in career advancement. Communication with a boss turns out to be a serious psychological test for many people, and when the boss does not know how to control himself or does not adhere to business ethics, the problem gains momentum. The relationship between a subordinate and a boss does not always work out well, and often interferes with effective work. Not every person can tolerate rudeness, but it is extremely difficult to respond to such behavior with dignity. How to resist a tyrant boss? When is it better to remain silent, and when is it necessary to make it clear that his behavior is unacceptable? Answers to these and other questions can be found in our article.

Types of bosses

Managing people is a complex art that requires a person to have certain qualities: flexibility, self-control, sociability, ambition, organization, and so on. And when work in a team does not work out, the atmosphere is oppressive, then it is worth thinking about the competence of the boss.

It is the destructive behavior of bosses that destroys peace and order in the team. So, the types of tyrant bosses:

A reptile is a petty leader who is always at the beck and call of big bosses; today he is in a good mood and happy with the work of his subordinates, and tomorrow he scolds him because he was criticized by management. He is a middle class god.
A dictator is a boss who will not let you say a word against it. He does not accept criticism, does not hear wishes, does not listen to advice. He thinks he knows everything better than others. His desires are undeniable, even if he does not fully understand the issue.
A slob - he is not organized, not collected, forgets about important meetings, assignments, deadlines. He does not control the progress of work at all, but at the same time he lashes out at his subordinates for his mistakes and mistakes.
A sadist - he knows all the weaknesses of his subordinates, he takes pleasure in mocking them, he seems to become attached to the victim, skillfully steps on her wounds, humiliating and insulting the person.
Tyrant - he experiences sadistic love and affection for his subordinates, he cultivates slavish obedience and dependence in the team, instilling fear in his subordinates.
An actor - he plays a competent specialist and supports the image in every possible way, even through humiliation.
A coward - this boss is very afraid of competition, he is very suspicious, he sees subordinates everywhere who want to take his place, he humiliates them and by all means kills the spirit of competition and the ambition of his subordinates in the team.

If your boss is a tyrant, what should you do? The answer depends on his behavior patterns. Increasing intonation, ridiculing the actions of a subordinate, rude speech, belittling dignity, familiarity, obscene jokes, flirting are signs of a manager’s unprofessionalism. But before you start fighting inappropriate behavior, you should evaluate your strengths and capabilities. The slightest mistake will significantly worsen the situation.

Correct employee behavior tactics

What to do if your boss is a tyrant? Advice to subordinates who depend on this leader is the simplest. First of all, employees need to understand that they cannot act without permission in response to their boss’s behavior. Open confrontation will only do harm, and the boss will get away with it. How to deal with a tyrant boss:

Make any decisions carefully.
Behave calmly and reservedly.
Always play it safe and perform any of your actions in the presence of witnesses.
In front of strangers, treat your boss with respect.

If subordinates are thinking through a plan on how to get rid of a tyrant boss, then they should think through a secret and clear strategy of action. The main thing in this struggle for workers is to keep their jobs and not lose their jobs. The main rule in confrontation is to never complain about your boss to higher management. In companies, denunciations and complaints are not welcomed and are severely punished.

You shouldn’t even flirt with fighting with your boss. An employee must be responsible for his work and perform it efficiently and on time, and only then concern himself with creating a psychological atmosphere in the team.

The leader is a woman

If the boss is a hysterical woman, then what can be done in this case? If she gets hysterical, wait it out calmly. Perhaps something is wrong with her at home. If this happens often, then this is already a problem. Try to get an appointment with her and openly discuss questions about your work:

How to prepare reports. What should they contain?
When should they be provided?
What tasks to set and how.
When can I contact you if clarification is needed?
Formulate this in the form of instructions, including only what is required by the specifics of the work. Her signature must be on the paper. If the boss signs it herself, she won’t be able to find fault.

Ways to put a tyrant in his place

There are legends about tyrant bosses in the team; many employees discuss their behavior and personal qualities. But few people know how to behave with such a leader. What to do if your boss is a tyrant? Psychologist's advice:

You can't give in to emotions. In a state of anger, anger, irritation, a person is most easily controlled. You need to prepare for the conversation in advance. Prepare yourself for a difficult conversation. You should behave calmly and evenly in front of your boss, and not show him emotions. Calmness in response to aggression will moderate his ardor.
If your boss is rude, you need to ask him to give reasons for this behavior. You should speak to him in a cold and restrained manner. Uncultured behavior is the main sign of low intelligence, and restraint and politeness are signs of courage. If a subordinate knows how to control himself and his emotions, he becomes uninteresting for a sadistic boss or an actor.
You should not publicly contradict your boss. You should talk to him alone. We need to find out what exactly doesn’t suit him about his work. It is better to write down everything that does not suit him. If any of the items listed are not true, you need to ask your boss about it. By forcing him to repeat the lie, you focus attention on the wrongness of his actions.
You should not hurt his pride, otherwise the tyranny will become even harsher.

Is there protection from tyrants and sadists?

Try to talk to him less. They are usually skilled speakers, capable of instilling so much fear that you begin to feel its sticky touch on your skin.

Buck up, you won't be killed or beaten here.
Call on your imagination to help: place the screaming person in an aquarium, then watch how he opens his mouth and waves his arms for some reason.
Place a wall between you with the mirror side facing him. That's how a ray of light blinds his eyes!
Your indifference and calmness will turn on a different program for the boss, and he will calm down.
If you go to an appointment tomorrow, think in advance about how you will communicate. Write down several possible answers to the expected questions. Any remark should not take you by surprise. You must be prepared and confident. For example, never say that you don’t have time to do anything. Better to say: “YOUR order at the moment will not be able to meet the required quality due to time constraints.”
Ask your boss for advice, even if you know the answer yourself. He will be pleased that you recognize him as a leader.
If you want to put a tyrant in his place, then you need to fight as a team. It’s great if you write down offensive words or the cry of a tyrant. Be prepared that not the entire team will support you. But to humiliate yourself and let yourself be yelled at is too much.
Orthodoxy has a good short prayer of protection. Say to yourself: “Lord, remember King David and all his meekness.” You will calm down yourself and influence your boss.

What can't you do?

Tolerate insults in silence. This is a sure way to lose the respect of both your tyrant boss and your colleagues.
Respond to rudeness with rudeness, be rude to him. This will give rise to a new wave of aggression.
Criticize the boss, neither of them likes criticism. If the boss is a tyrant, criticism is a sure way to aggravate the conflict.
Ask for forgiveness and take the blame. This humiliation of one’s own dignity further frees the hands of the tyrant boss. This behavior is especially dangerous with a slob and a sadist.

How to prevent conflict

It should be remembered that all conflicts with your boss are much easier to prevent than to deal with their consequences later.

Often conflicts arise due to misunderstandings. The manager does not explain his position to his subordinates, and the employees silently tolerate his character and vague assignments.

We need to establish a dialogue. Through it you can convey verbal information and your inner state.

You need to show self-confidence from the first days of work. Actors and sadists avoid confrontations with such people. Of course, excessive self-confidence can irritate and irritate a dictator and a cowardly boss, but these are special cases. In addition, they will not enter into an obvious conflict with such a person. You can find a balance in communication with any leader, the main thing is to be attentive and not be afraid of your superiors.

Patience

All difficult situations in relationships darken your mood and work process; you need to learn how to overcome them correctly. At first, you need to observe the tyrant boss: his behavior is temporary or permanent, it is connected with troubles at work or with personal problems. If a person humiliates and insults his subordinates for the sake of pleasure, he is not worthy of respect and the position he holds.

Observation will help develop an action plan: find the leader’s weaknesses, collect evidence of his illegal actions. You should be very careful with despots; they always have escape routes. You should be patient; it will help you act rationally and not emotionally.

Bouquet of daffodils

Particularly worth mentioning is the group of narcissistic psychopathy, which are based on delusions of grandeur and selfishness.
In everyday perception, these two varieties are intertwined, and this has its own truth: in the end, we are talking about the same thing - narcissism, confidence in one’s own infallibility and demands for others to emphasize the greatness of the boss. A narcissist is always a tyrant. As soon as a person has impaired the ability to self-esteem, this can lead to the death of the company: the team needs the leader to turn the steering wheel on time, while he constantly brakes and persists. Over time, this type easily moves into the zone of hysteria and sadism. In general, speaking about the toxicity of management (from delusions of grandeur to sexual deviations), we can say that the team is only able to protect itself from the influence of managers for a short time - with the help of spiritual practices, building up its own energy field, as well as various unloading systems that allow regeneration after a working day and come to your senses. In organizational practice, a technique called “cooling” is used, that is, complete immersion in activity and abstraction from everything personal at work: we freeze the parasites in the information environment, and they die. There are places where New Year, birthdays, etc. are not celebrated. On the one hand, this approach allows people to distance themselves from the influence of their colleagues, on the other hand, the company risks losing efficiency, because general secrecy does not contribute to the development of professionalism and complicates communications.

A way to deal with management negativity

If the boss’s behavior, despite everything, does not change, you should weigh all the pros and cons. Decide for yourself: resist tyranny or change jobs. If you decide to resist, then you should seriously prepare for this.

Here are some signs that you should start fighting with your boss:

The boss does not listen to the advice and competent arguments of his employees.
Gives unfair punishments.
Belittles the merits of the subordinate, puts him in a negative light.

It is difficult and sometimes impossible to come to an agreement with such a boss. He is on his own mind and does not consider it necessary to listen or hear anyone. In case of a mistake, he will always find the culprit - the one he likes least.

The fight against tyranny can only be achieved through the joint efforts of the entire team. Real evidence is needed to fire or demote him. Before they gather, you should under no circumstances express your position to the tyrant.

How to behave with a tyrant woman boss

In many ways, the tyranny of female bosses is due to psychological characteristics and a different leadership style, by understanding which you can easily get along and even win yourself a bunch of bonuses. It is important to remember that when evaluating any act of a woman, more attention is paid to the motives for its commission and personal sympathy for the person. Thus, reports of the same quality from a pleasant employee and from one who is annoying will be evaluated differently. The same applies to personal situations, for example, the understanding that an employee lives alone in a foreign city and is leading an important project can lead to concessions, but a girl with a very wealthy husband will not receive an extra hour of rest. If you initially earn a high level of trust or make friends with your boss, then you will not run into tyranny, but on the contrary, you will be rewarded and forgiven for mistakes.

There is no point in entering into a reciprocal conflict; it is optimal not to notice her inadequate criticism or excessive hysteria at all. If the emotional message does not meet with a response and remains unnoticed, then neutrality leads to female reassurance. They may start making friends with you and sweetly ask you to work on weekends, pressure you for pity and threaten you with social measures. All these are exclusively feminine manifestations that have nothing to do with the professional sphere, a way to test your boundaries - you need to clearly define the circle of your responsibility and not get involved in any additional interactions. The idea of making friends with your boss is fraught with the fact that any disagreement, even over ordering pizza in a cafe, will affect your career.

Choose tactics of constructive cooperation, where each of you takes care of your responsibilities. Adaptation, constant fulfillment of the boss’s requests leads to the disappearance of personal time and the complete destruction of all projects. Look for a compromise where you can realize your potential as a professional.

Confrontation

Open confrontation alone is a very difficult way to combat tyranny. It is best to start with an objection that should be devoid of aggression or emotion. You need to ask him to explain his decision, and it is better to conduct a dialogue in front of witnesses. If your boss responds with aggression or disrespect, you should politely ask him to follow the rules of business communication and etiquette.

You should not enter into an unequal dispute; in such conflict situations, the leader always wins.

Block 1. The boss is yelling! Have you encountered this?

Do you have bosses? No? How lucky you are! But aren’t there people around you who periodically begin to behave towards you like bosses? For example, your wife or your husband, friend, girlfriend, son, daughter, stranger, official, boor on the road?

Let me make an assumption that most of us have direct bosses at work and there are indirect bosses who have assumed a temporary social role.
At the same time, some bosses allow themselves to raise their voices at you. When this happens, we often make behavioral mistakes. Instead of transforming a yelling boss into a non-yelling state, we ourselves become loudmouths or shed tears from our powerlessness to respond to the boor.

Subordination

The most unsuccessful way to deal with a tyrant is through senior management. Modern companies don’t really like sneaking around, so you can resort to this method of influencing a destructive boss only if you have nothing to lose and it’s simply impossible to continue working like this. At the same time, the rules of subordination should be observed: disrespect for the boss does not give reason to insult him.

In case of indecent behavior or sexual harassment, you must contact the company management and set out in writing all the details of the incident. Humiliation of an employee's dignity based on gender or race is a serious violation of the country's legislation, which is fraught with a fine and dismissal.