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Darius Foro
Author of books on productivity, blogger.
Have you ever felt like a failure? Most of us are familiar with this condition.
It may seem like everyone around you is creating multi-billion dollar projects, becoming YouTube stars, or enjoying success on Instagram. Deep down we understand that nothing like this happens to 99% of people. But when we see all these lucky people in front of us, we stop thinking about reality.
Whether you want money, fame, travel, or none of the above, it all comes down to your self-confidence. Will it be enough to tell everything to hell and make your cherished dream come true? Are you confident enough to say, “Screw all this bullshit, I don’t need this,” and be happy with yourself?
Self-confidence is important for anyone who wants to get what they want. Whatever you want, a lack of self-confidence will prevent you from achieving it.
As research by MH Kernis shows. Measuring Self-Esteem in Context: The Importance of Stability of Self-Esteem in Psychological Functioning / Journal of Personality, self-doubt leads to depression, loneliness, poor academic performance, and life dissatisfaction.
I've been studying this phenomenon for years, and the most relevant theory I've found is about confidence through competence.
In 1952, an article by BM Moore was published in the journal Educational Leadership. Self-Confidence for Competence / Educational Leadership "Self-Confidence for Competence" by Bernice Milburn Moore. In this work, the author discusses the role of self-confidence in a teacher’s career, but knowing the essence of this article will be useful in any field.
The definitions of self-confidence that you can find are more or less the same. Moore interprets this concept as self-confidence, a willingness to face any situation. But more importantly, the author adds the following.
Overconfidence without competence makes no more sense than competence without overconfidence.
Bernice Milburn Moore
In other words, going to business school can give you competence. But only by using it to manage a real company will you gain self-confidence. These characteristics are only useful when they complement each other.
This principle works both ways. Self-confidence without competence is worthless—you can’t make a business plan out of empty words. You should boldly express your opinion, but at the same time it is important to have knowledge that can back up your words.
Active self-hypnosis for self-confidence
Self-hypnosis - what is it anyway? How often do we use its power in our daily lives? Who puts in us bad attitudes towards trouble and is there a method of getting rid of them? You can find out about this and much more from this material.
What is self-hypnosis
In reality, people use the power of self-hypnosis once a day. Moreover, quite often this happens completely unconsciously. So people, either by their own or someone else’s will, tune in to illness, poverty, negativity, losses, and later wonder why there are so many bad events in their lives?
You will be able to refute the existence of self-hypnosis and active self-hypnosis, attribute it to excess optimism, pessimism, an invention of psychiatrists, or annoying mania. This will not change anything at all in your life, because scientists have long confirmed the existence of a strong force given to us, which has a tremendous impact on us.
Self-hypnosis is the work of human consciousness, which is focused on itself and is reinforced by visual images. Thanks to the work we do, certain subconscious attitudes are formed. With all this, one area of the cerebral cortex dominates, while other areas are in an inhibited state.
To perform self-hypnosis, there is no need to fall into a trance. It is completely enough to provide yourself with a measured, secluded environment, to concentrate one hundred percent on a specific goal, achieving relaxation or, on the contrary, receiving a powerful sensory shock.
When you say your intention many times, your brain will be “programmed” for it, and your idea will soon become a reality.
Self-hypnosis should not be confused with willpower. Willpower is the conscious effort to perform some action. It is typical for any effort to encounter resistance from our psyche.
The work of self-hypnosis is carried out through the means of emotions, feelings, imagination, with all this, attitudes fall deep into our consciousness and are expressed at the physical level in the form of certain possibilities, feelings or actions.
For what purpose can it be used?
Self-hypnosis has great abilities.
With the right direction, these abilities allow you to perform true miracles, changing a person’s personality and physical potential for the better, improving his emotional state and allowing him to achieve his goals. But self-hypnosis can be both positive and negative. Used unconsciously in our lives, it can have a negative effect on us.
This is how the mechanism of self-hypnosis is often introduced into your consciousness by the words of others. Naturally, it is not permissible to attribute one hundred percent of our troubles and failures to other people, because until we internally approve of other people’s attitudes, they will not be able to translate into reality.
But just in case, you should stay away from people who convince you that you are nothing of yourself, that you cannot achieve something or learn something. They block your channel for doing what you want and program your personality to be completely negative.
Using self-hypnosis for self-confidence and success, you will protect yourself from brutal external actions and gain complete control over your own life.
Don’t forget that your life is true magic, you are a unique and inimitable person. You need to instill this in yourself, allow yourself to become happy, beloved, rich, successful - choose what you need from this list.
And an organism programmed for success can cope with the task within the limits of the abilities it possesses.
Eliminate any doubts from your own subconscious by performing self-hypnosis. After all, sincere faith plays a gigantic role in this process. When formulating what we want, we are not talking about reality, but only about the desired outcome, but this is done in the present tense. Our consciousness is not aware of such concepts as “yesterday” or “tomorrow”; it works only on the principle of “here and at the moment.”
You will learn more information about self-hypnosis from the following video.
Conscious and unconscious self-suggestion
Most people use negative self-hypnosis without realizing it. Having read about any nasty facts or terrible events, they tend to unconsciously attract them into their lives.
A very good example is a person reading a medical reference book, which describes some terrible disease. He begins to find in himself the same symptoms that are indicated in the book, and having discovered, in reality he very soon falls ill. The power of self-hypnosis is so strong that a person can convince himself that he is suffering from incurable pathologies and the matter ends in death.
There is another name for consciously programming oneself for troubles and problems - pessimism.
If times in your life are not the best at the moment, inspire yourself that very soon all the bad things will go away, and only excellent actions await you ahead, all your dreams and desires will simply come true.
For your subconscious, such an attitude will be a straw for a drowning man; it will happily grab it, and unexpectedly, strength will appear that will help you cope with stress and troubles.
Self-hypnosis technique
There are a large number of self-hypnosis techniques. We invite you to familiarize yourself with the most popular of them.
- Affirmation is a self-hypnosis technique that involves repeating certain formulas silently or out loud. Examples of such formulas: “I am happy”, “I am not sick”, “I have a good job”, “I have a good, diligent and loving spouse” and so on. Create affirmations based on your needs and repeat them to yourself often. Then, over time, all the bad attitudes of your subconscious will be replaced by positive ones.
- Visualization – This involves mentally imagining and experiencing events that you imagine. The main point of the technique given to us is that you really imagine the situation and begin to seem to live in it. The effect of this method is based on the fact that our brain is not able to distinguish real actions from imaginary ones. When you visualize something, your mind believes that it is actually happening.
- Self-hypnosis E. Coue. You will need to take a comfortable position (lying or sitting), close your eyes, relax and whisper a certain self-hypnosis formula a couple of times. It is important that it be ordinary, consisting of a couple of words, for example, “I am happy.” Repeat sessions of this method for three to four minutes a couple of times a day for several weeks.
Who introduces bad attitudes into our consciousness?
No one is born with negative attitudes and mental images, so where do they come from? Why do people start to think that they are losers?
There are several main sources of negative suggestion:
- Ancestors. Almost all parents spoil the psyche of their children, without even meaning to. The main mistake that mothers and fathers make is comparing their own baby with peers not in his favor. There are also constant reproaches for “incorrect” actions; they often take out their own disappointment on the child.
- Bad past experience . Bad experience acquired in the past also contributes to the formation of a negative attitude towards what it was associated with. The image is fixed in the subconscious that if nothing worked out the first time, then all the next ones will also be bad.
- You need to accept your obstacles. Find the real source of all your misfortunes. To do this, it is necessary to enter a state of modified consciousness, although from time to time there is a problem when replaying past events. You will find that starting point when a bad image has taken hold in your head, causing you to hesitate in your own abilities.
- Change your memoirs. When the starting point that provoked the negative memory has been found, you need to imagine the situation that happened, but only so that it turns into a positive one. Think about how it would seem to have changed if you or other people would have acted differently. Fill yourself with these positive feelings, believe in your new role, so that a new, modified, positive situation is deposited in your subconscious.
All this is deposited in the subconscious and forces a person to feel defective, to hesitate in his own strengths and abilities. Bad attitudes from adolescence are transformed into adulthood, and it becomes difficult for a person to make decisions and take responsibility for his actions.
For example, in a relationship you encountered betrayal, as a result of which you received languid mental trauma. As time passed, you moved away from the experience and entered into new things.
But at the subconscious level, you are now trying to accuse all your new boyfriends of cheating.
You suffer from hesitations, even if they are groundless, you create scenes of jealousy, and you always expect that life will throw another joke at you.
How to get rid of self-hypnosis
You have already realized that self-hypnosis can very much poison our lives; it increases our receptivity to the words of others and makes us most vulnerable. The positive thing is that this problem can be completely resolved. The people around you are not to blame for your troubles; their key lies in you.
So it is necessary to work on all the negative memories until you replace them all with positive feelings.
But if in the past a situation has caused you severe pain and disappointment, which you are unable to cope with without the help of others, it is better to seek help from a specialist.
The effect of self-hypnosis is a very harsh thing that can greatly change your life.
Therefore, do not be afraid to trust a specialist who, using current techniques, will help you achieve a comfortable and harmonious state.
Source: tayniymir.com
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Self-hypnosis: how to do it correctly so that it works?
21.08.2016
I printed this article out for myself a long time ago... and years later I found it in a box with other articles and books. Unfortunately, I don’t know who wrote this text, but it is clearly clear that the person understands the topic (upd: the source is listed at the end of the article). I suspect that the article was written somewhere in 2011 and it describes 10 rules on how to do self-hypnosis correctly.
Attention! Self-hypnosis is just one of the tools in achieving goals. I give a complete list of tools for realizing your desires here >>>
How to do self-hypnosis: 10 rules
I think many of you know what self-hypnosis is. If not, then let me briefly remind you that self-hypnosis is the repetition of certain phrases out loud or silently in order to instill in yourself the desired qualities of character, to become richer, to lose weight, or to achieve any other goal.
Analysis of the use of autosuggestion in my life led me to the conclusion that sometimes it works well, and sometimes it does not work at all, despite months of repetition of a certain suggestion.
In this article, I summarized my journal entries over several years and my conclusions about when self-hypnosis works and when it doesn’t.
1 rule of self-hypnosis: no to words
I often read that in self-hypnosis you cannot use the word “no and you can’t.” I did not notice that when using these particles of denial, self-hypnosis does not work. It works, and quite well.
Therefore, if you want to achieve something, but do not know how to formulate a suggestion without denial, then use it.
This is especially true if you want to give up some habit, for example, eating a lot, smoking, etc.
Rule 2 of self-hypnosis: in your own words
Selecting phrases for yourself is extremely important. Often in books you can see self-hypnosis for developing confidence, money thinking, memory, etc. But it is not at all necessary that these self-hypnosis will work for you.
Some words you don’t fully understand; for some words you don’t have any associations. There are words that for some reason cause you rejection. Therefore, you need to spend some time choosing words.
You won't save time here. Try one or another self-hypnosis.
Do you like it, do you understand it, do at least a few associative images appear in your head when pronouncing it, is there any discomfort in your soul or body?
The phrase “I am a confident person” may not work for you if you don’t have any associations with it. What is it for you, a set of words, or do you have many images? What does self-confidence mean to you? If you know what “I'm sure” is, then feel free to use it. If not, then maybe “I speak loudly” or “I look people straight in the eyes and don’t look away” or something else would be better.
For some purposes, short self-hypnosis is better; for others, a little more detail is better. It happens that self-hypnosis works well for a whole page of text that you read out loud.
On the subject: How to make a wish so that it comes true?
Rule 3 of self-hypnosis: relax
Self-hypnosis requires at least minimal relaxation. I once tried a self-hypnosis formula that I used for 2 months on my way to and from work. Twice a day, 15 minutes each, seems to be enough to feel the effect. But there was no effect.
And only when I began to pronounce it at home, in a calm environment, having previously relaxed, did it begin to act.
Therefore, I am somewhat skeptical about recommendations to use self-hypnosis on the way to work, while walking, sitting in a car in traffic jams, etc. Of course it won't get any worse, except for the loss of time. Although, of course, all people are different.
On the subject: How will relaxation help you make your wishes come true?
Rule 4 of self-hypnosis: daily exercises
Self-hypnosis requires daily practice, at least twice a day. All my successful self-hypnosis occurred when I was studying quite intensively. About twice a day for 15-30 minutes.
Missing at least one lesson is bad for achieving results. Missing one day of classes is very, very bad and greatly undermines the effect of classes. Missing a couple of days of classes, for example on weekends, raises the question that everything you do is useless.
It is much better to work out intensely for two months and then quit altogether, than to work out and skip weekends for a whole year.
Important! If your work or life schedule is now such that you cannot study twice a day, then it is better to postpone the training until better times, do not repeat the mistakes of others. You will waste a lot of time, get disappointed, and say that this method does not work, although it works, and not bad. And here is proof of this >>>
Rule 5 of self-hypnosis: form an image
Self-hypnosis is more about helping the subconscious in forming images, rather than acting directly. Therefore, do not just mindlessly pronounce phrases of self-hypnosis. Let some images and situations flash through your mind that correspond to self-hypnosis. As soon as consciousness begins to drift away again, repeat self-hypnosis again.
On the topic: How to visualize a desire correctly?
Rule 6 of self-hypnosis: watch for changes
If no changes occur in your life within 2-3 weeks, then you are doing something wrong. Review your training, go through the secrets of self-hypnosis.
Rule 7 of self-hypnosis: a good phrase
And vice versa, if self-hypnosis works, do not even think about changing the phrases of self-hypnosis. It is also advisable to save the time of classes, frequency, etc. Some well-functioning phrases can be used for years. If they become boring, then sometimes it is better to add a phrase than to remove it altogether.
Rule 8 of self-hypnosis: use auxiliary means
Sometimes auxiliary means are good for self-hypnosis. For example, recording text on a tape recorder and listening to this recording, or self-hypnosis in front of a mirror.
Rule 9 of self-hypnosis: check negative attitudes
Sometimes a more basic belief gets in the way of your goals and desires. This could be parental programs or other beliefs. For example, if you study how to earn more money, how to increase your income, then another suggestion that the rich are bad can completely or partially neutralize the effect of the studies. How to determine that there is another suggestion?
If you start practicing and a rejection of the sensation arises in your body, too much disbelief that reaches the point of aggression, excessive laziness, etc., then perhaps there is another suggestion that is opposite to the one that you are now instilling in yourself.
If you study for several days and analyze the images that arise in your head, you will definitely identify it. Include the opposite suggestion in the lesson program. Everything will get better little by little.
On the subject: Test: check if you have negative attitudes about money, wealth and business?
Rule 10 of self-hypnosis: specific or non-specific?
Well, the tenth remark, again in some books they write that you need to formulate goals very specifically. That is, I don’t want a car, but I want a BMW 5 Series, gray, for such and such a date, etc.
d. I worked with both specific suggestions and general ones. Regarding this, I can say the following: at the beginning of work, you, as a rule, cannot clearly formulate your dream, much less deadlines, etc.
Being specific at the beginning of work only hinders the work. As you get closer to the goal, of course it can and should be made more specific.
Therefore, when you started practicing, it is better to say the phrase “I am rich”, and as you progress you can formulate “By such and such a date, through such and such a business, I can easily earn money by such and such a date, etc.” Again, the main thing here is that the desire is only yours, and not inspired from the outside.
That's all 10 rules for how to effectively use the self-hypnosis method so that it works. Thanks to the author for the advice.
Source: www.sun-hands.ru
I tell you how I use self-hypnosis to fulfill my desires at my master class “How to learn how to quickly materialize desires” >>>
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Self-esteem test - determine the level of attitude towards yourself today
My self-esteem test consists of a few simple questions that you only have to answer “YES” or “NO.” When you do this, count the number of positive and negative responses.
- Do you often scold yourself for mistakes (yes/no);
- Do you like to gossip with girlfriends (friends) and discuss mutual acquaintances (yes/no);
- You do not have clear goals and you do not plan your life (yes/no);
- You do not engage in physical education and sports (yes/no);
- Do you like to worry about trifles (yes/no);
- When you find yourself in an unfamiliar company, do you prefer to remain “in the shadows” (yes/no);
- When meeting the opposite sex, you cannot carry on a conversation (yes/no);
- When you are criticized does it make you depressed (yes/no);
- You like to criticize people and are often jealous of other people's success (yes/no);
- You are easily offended by a careless word (yes/no).
Key to the self-esteem test:
Answers “Yes” from 1 to 3 : Congratulations, you have normal self-esteem.
There are more than 3 “Yes” answers : you have low self-esteem, work on it.
Active self-hypnosis for self-confidence - how to inspire, formulas and techniques
Self-hypnosis - what is it? How often do we use its power in everyday life? Who puts negative attitudes towards failure in us and is there a way to get rid of them? You can learn about this and much more from this material.
For what purpose can it be used?
Self-hypnosis has enormous potential.
With the right direction, these opportunities allow you to perform real miracles, changing a person’s personality and physical potential for the better, improving his emotional state and allowing him to achieve his goals. But self-hypnosis can be both positive and negative. Used unconsciously in our lives, it can have a bad effect on us.
This is how the mechanism of self-hypnosis is often introduced into your consciousness by the words of others. Of course, we cannot attribute our failures and mistakes entirely to other people, since until we internally approve of other people’s attitudes, they will not be able to translate into reality.
But just in case, you should stay away from people who convince you that you are nothing of yourself, that you cannot achieve something or learn something. They block the channel for you to achieve what you want and program your personality to be completely negative.
Using self-hypnosis for self-confidence and success, you will protect yourself from aggressive external influences and gain complete control over your life.
Do not forget that your life is a real miracle, you are a unique and inimitable person. You need to instill this in yourself, allow yourself to become happy, loved, rich, successful - choose the one you need from this list.
And an organism programmed for success will be able to cope with the task within the capabilities it has.
Eliminate any doubts from your subconscious by performing self-hypnosis. After all, it is sincere faith that plays a huge role in this process. When formulating what we want, we are not talking about reality, but only about the desired result, but this is done in real time. Our consciousness does not understand such concepts as yesterday or tomorrow; it works only on the principle of here and now.
You will learn more about self-hypnosis in the following video.
Conscious and unconscious self-suggestion
Most people use negative self-hypnosis without realizing it. Having read about some unpleasant facts or terrible events, they tend to unconsciously attract them into their lives.
A very good example is a person reading a medical reference book that describes some terrible disease. He begins to look for the same symptoms that are indicated in the book, and having found them, in reality he very soon falls ill. The power of self-hypnosis is so strong that a person can convince himself that he is suffering from incurable pathologies and the matter ends in death.
There is another name for consciously programming oneself for failures and troubles - pessimism.
If these are not the best times in your life, inspire yourself that very soon all the bad things will go away, and only good events await you ahead, all your dreams and desires will easily come true.
For your subconscious, such an attitude will be a straw for a drowning man; it will happily pick it up, and unexpectedly strength will appear that will help you cope with stress and troubles.
Who introduces negative attitudes into our consciousness?
No one is born with negative attitudes and mental images, so where do they come from? Why do people start thinking that they are losers?
There are several main sources of negative suggestion:
- Parents. Many parents spoil the psyche of their children, and without meaning to. The main mistake that mom and dad make is comparing their child with their peers not in his favor. There are also constant reproaches for wrong actions; they often take out their own disappointment on the child.
All this is deposited in the subconscious and makes a person feel inferior, doubt his own strengths and capabilities. Negative attitudes from childhood are transformed into adulthood, and it becomes difficult for a person to make decisions and take responsibility for his actions.
- Negative past experiences . Bad experiences in the past also contribute to the formation of a negative attitude towards what they were associated with. The image is fixed in the subconscious that if nothing worked out the first time, then all subsequent ones will also be unsuccessful.
For example, in a relationship you encountered betrayal, which resulted in severe psychological trauma. As time passed, you moved away from the experience and entered into a new relationship.
But at the subconscious level, you are now trying to convict all your new boyfriends of cheating.
You suffer from doubts, even if they are groundless, you create scenes of jealousy, all the time waiting for life to throw you another trick.
What reduces self-esteem in men
Any man at any age and in any position in society should wonder how to increase his self-esteem. If only because he is a man, and also because there are no limits to high self-esteem.
Let's see what factors have the most negative impact on your self-esteem:
- Children's complexes. All emotions that come from childhood greatly influence the formation of an adult personality, including self-esteem. There are practically no people without complexes, so if you feel squeezed and incapable of great achievements, believe me, you can fight it;
- Women. Of course, there are women who know how to behave with men so that they make great progress in life. One can argue endlessly about how a woman influences a man’s self-esteem, but more often than not, female nature tends to underestimate male self-esteem, and nature, not man, is to blame for this;
- Breakups, divorces, betrayals. All this hits men’s self-esteem extremely hard. If you yourself have found yourself in similar situations, then you know how difficult it is to start life from scratch, for example, after a breakup. But nothing is impossible;
- Obsessing over problems. We are talking about a whole category of people who tend to inflate even a small trouble into a whole universal catastrophe. Such self-hypnosis lowers self-esteem below the reference point and can lead to severe psychological problems in the future, be careful.
In addition, the list can be supplemented by low-paid work, a person’s strong exposure to public opinion, and even an unfortunate place of residence.
By the way, the solution to these problems clearly suggests how to increase a man’s self-esteem after a divorce from his wife.
Change the city in which you lived before, find a better-paying job, make new friends. Immersion in the work process will not allow you to dwell on a topical topic for a long time, and a new home and environment will make memories of divorce blurry, which will allow you to soon find your soulmate and start a new life from scratch.
How to convince yourself of something? Effective methods of self-hypnosis
Has anyone ever told you that a dental or medical procedure “hurts really bad,” that a test “was really hard,” or that the new boss is “impossible to handle,” only to have those scenarios play out as predicted? It turns out that these early suggestions shaped your reality. According to research by Marianne Harry, Robert Michael and Irving Kirsch, intentional suggestion can affect how well a person remembers things, how they respond to treatment, and even how well they behave.
What is suggestion?
The concept of "suggestion" was originally closely associated with hypnosis and was introduced in the mid-nineteenth century by Alexandre Bertrand in France and James Braid in England as an explanation for hypnotic phenomena.
Thus it replaced the theory of animal magnetism and other theories of fluidism.
Suggestion became a generally accepted psychological concept during the famous dispute between the Salpétriére and Nancy schools in the eighteen-eighties.
Sociologists soon found it useful to incorporate the hitherto exclusively medical concept of suggestion into their theories of social interaction.
Such famous sociologists as Gabriel Tardet, Scipio Siegele and Gustave Le Bon considered suggestion as the main mechanism of the social process. These authors analyzed suggestion in its various forms as a unitary phenomenon.
The use of suggestion in different contexts was thought to vary in degree rather than in kind.
Pioneers of social psychology such as Edward Ross and William McDougall also viewed the various phenomena of suggestion as parts of a continuum.
In addition to hypnosis, induced illusions, impressionability through leading questions, uncritical persuasion, fashion conformity, and mass suggestion have been mentioned as examples of suggestion.
Everyday acts of suggestion were considered to be less pronounced forms of the same behavior that can be observed in hypnotized people.
Self-hypnosis in the modern world: a necessity or a burden?
Sometimes you may be having a good day, but end up thinking about something terrible, and then even berate yourself for having that thought. Law of Attraction practitioners may find themselves in this situation much more often as they strive to monitor their thoughts. They will have a negative thought and then it may just be another reason to feel bad about themselves.
However, these are excellent times for us to use autosuggestion in changing our reality. When you catch yourself thinking something negative, be sure to immediately replace it with a good thought.
For example, you think to yourself “damn, I'm ugly” and then realize that you don't want to think that way. Use this moment to tell yourself, “Actually, I am beautiful.
I'm beautiful because I'm smart, I have beautiful skin, I have beautiful hair, I love my nose, I like the shape of my body, I have a good laugh..." the more you can think about the opposite of a statement you didn't mean to make , the more you strengthen his opposite feeling.
How to learn self-hypnosis?
If you want to know how to suggest something to yourself, you can use the following methods:
Self-hypnosis techniques
Here are the most effective self-hypnosis techniques:
- Affirmations. Affirmations are positive, present tense words spoken in the first person. Apply the same rules to self-hypnosis methods as for affirmations.
- Thirty-day mental diet. Start paying attention to your self-talk. Whenever you catch yourself engaging in negative talk, especially self-talk that expresses fear, doubt, or self-hatred, stop it. Then replace it with more encouraging, positive words.
- Use the alpha state of your mind. Obviously, we are “programming” ourselves all the time. When we are in the alpha state of mind, our brain waves slow down and we have more influence on our subconscious programming. If you know self-hypnosis or meditation techniques that send you into a deep subconscious state, use them. If not, just close your eyes and follow your breath for a few minutes, counting from twenty to one. Then use the self-hypnosis methods mentioned above.
