How to prove to a girl that you love her

Why does a girl say that she is not loved?

To fight the effect, you need to know the cause. Why can a girl repeat like a mantra about “dislike”:

1. Negative relationship experience.

2. Very high suspiciousness. She always believes that she is judged, not loved, not appreciated, belittled - in all areas of relationships: at work, in the family with her parents, at school, with a man.

3. He wants more of your attention and thus tries to provoke you into it.

4. Perhaps she collects men, squeezes everything she can out of them and forces them to constantly prove their love. Such young ladies are insatiable and overly self-confident, you can easily figure them out yourself.

Young man following woman — Image by © Roy Morsch/Corbis

Analyzing these reasons, one can understand that girls’ reproaches are just the cry of a person in need of attention. Women's pride does not allow girls to say that your attention is not enough. But they are taught to act “bypassing”.

Yes, not the most pleasant method, but now you know what is hidden behind her “you stopped loving me.”

Why proof of love is needed

When a woman begins to feel that she is not receiving enough love, doubts arise about her partner’s feelings. In some cases, evidence may be required, sometimes quite material. Convincing of the sincerity of intentions, as well as proving your love, in some cases is extremely important:

The model of relationships in the parents' family, which is called the “life script,” is one of the possible reasons for the desire for “proof of love.” Even if you are aware of this scenario, it is quite difficult to avoid it. That is, if in the relationship between the parents, for example, there was a place for the spouse’s infidelity, the child was raised in an atmosphere of constant scandals and reproaches. In addition, attitudes like: “Men cannot be trusted”, “They are all the same” become the basis, the foundation of future life. All this calls into question such qualities as trust and honesty. In such circumstances, it is extremely important for a girl to feel loved, as she fears betrayal and pain.
The need to confirm feelings can be influenced by an internal conflict consisting in the desire to receive additional love that was not there in childhood. Constant proof of love from the outside can turn into an obsessive state with manic overtones, when the desire to feel like a valuable and unique person is required literally every day and seven days a week. In such a situation, a man needs to realize what is happening in time, since such a “game” will not lead to anything good.
Lack of understanding of the principles of unconditional love. Stereotypes firmly rooted since childhood associated with the image of the “ideal wife” cause a constant desire to live up to them. When in a relationship there is no demand from a man to meet the “ideal,” internal contradictions arise. For example, for many men, no cleaning would be preferable to a partner tired of household chores.

A woman needs to be helped to come to the understanding that building relationships should not be based only on the exchange of material goods, but also include care, warmth, attention and listening skills.

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Men and women understand love differently

From my own experience, I can say that men are usually “spoken” in the following love languages:

5 (touching, tactile contact, sex);
1 (recognition, encouragement, confirmation of its importance and significance);
3 (sit together in the evening, hugging each other, watch a movie together).

For girls, as a rule, priority is given to:

1 (verbal confirmation of her beauty, attractiveness, significance for you as a woman);
4 (help from you: in everyday life, in various situations where she is powerless, the feeling of a strong shoulder nearby and protection);
2 (tokens of attention, flowers, small gifts, serious gifts).

Let me remind you that for each person the list is YOURS in descending order of importance. You can ask your girlfriend what is best for her by offering her a choice of two, for example:

“Which is better – we’ll go on vacation (3 – time), or we’ll buy you a spa membership (2 – gifts).”

Or ask directly what she likes best when you do for her. If you find out WHAT it is and demonstrate your love in a language she understands, then very soon all her doubts will disappear, and she will not nag you that you don’t love her.

Original ways

Since it is sometimes difficult to prove to a girl that you really love her, you need to come up with an original gesture. With a little imagination, you can say about your feelings in a way that will be remembered, for example:

Sweets in a handmade jar. You don't need any special skills or materials to make this craft. An iron or glass coffee or tea jar will do; you will need glue, as well as beads, seed beads, and sequins. The composition doesn't matter. The most important thing is her favorite sweets.

Any thing made with your own hands shows sincerity, warmth and attention to your loved one.

Flowers - maybe trite - still remain a win-win choice. To present an original sign of attention, you don’t have to climb like Richard Gere to her balcony with flowers in your teeth. You can purchase a composition in the form of a kitten, bear, elephant or other miniature creature. The main thing is surprise.
Order a photo calendar. In order to make a small but meaningful gift, you need to select photographs associated with the brightest and happiest memories together. In addition, you can highlight dates that are significant for both of you in a different color (which will allow you not to forget about them yourself). It is important for a woman to know that a man remembers such moments.
Video with your favorite song. Knowing your musical taste, you can choose a girl’s especially favorite song, record and edit a video of your performance. Even if “the bear stepped on your ear,” it will definitely be cute and unique.

It’s not difficult to show small gestures of attention: a simple morning coffee with foam in the shape of a heart or a happy smiley may be a small thing, but it’s very pleasant.

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How to prove to a girl that you love her with words

1. Thank her for what she does for you. By doing this you will show that you appreciate her efforts and you are pleased with such care for you. You are not an insensitive, indifferent cracker, but a sensitive and attentive man. But maintain your brutality: do not be scattered with gratitude, but speak clearly and to the point:

“Thank you for dinner, honey, it was delicious.”

“Thank you for ironing the shirts, my hostess.”

2. Give compliments. No, why is it difficult for you? And we are pleased. How beautiful, smart, gentle, affectionate she is. There is an opinion that your words of admiration for her are 50% of the success of creating a happy and lasting relationship. The remaining 50% is the sum of all actions, habits, daily activities, surprises, gifts, and so on.

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3. Words of love. Don't assume that a girl can see or feel your love by default. Can not! Does not see! Hearing is what we need. This is a different sense organ. The fact that you gave her perfume and took her to a restaurant did not reach her ears and understanding.

Seriously, say these words, girls need them like air. Without beautiful actions and phrases, just hug and quietly:

"I love you".

I assure you, it is the greatest bliss to hear such words from a man. All other indirect confirmations of love by some suspicious individuals can be interpreted in a completely opposite sense. (For example: if you gave flowers, it means you screwed up in something).

4. Make plans together out loud. These can be both long-term and short-term (trip, next weekend, vacation, entertainment, going to a club, cinema, visiting friends for birthdays). Such conversations show the seriousness and stability of the relationship. And a girl who doubts your love lacks confidence in this very thing.

5. Tell her about what is happening in your life. This builds trust and intimacy. This way she will understand that she is significant and loved by you.

Advice from psychologists and practical recommendations

Very often love is confused with falling in love, which does not last so long, but disappears forever quite quickly. True love must go through several stages of development, for which it is necessary to make efforts, constantly maintaining feelings and emotions at a certain level.

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Strong relationships are impossible without respect, attention, care, selflessness, and support. You need to try to make your significant other happy, because it is important to prove your sincerity to the girl, to show that you love her very much. For most women, loyalty and devotion of a partner are of paramount importance, which is why they are painfully perceived:

Compliments that evaluate the views of other women.
Correspondence with girls on social networks.
Friendships, kisses, hugs with another woman.

Receiving regular signs of attention is an indicator of the manifestation of feelings on the part of a man. Kisses, words of love, compliments, pleasant surprises should be an inseparable part of the life of any representative of the fair sex.

In addition, you can prove the importance of a woman in a man’s life:

offering help with housework or shopping;
appreciating her culinary abilities;
supporting her in any difficult period of life.

Women value in men such qualities as determination, willpower, as well as the ability not only to make difficult decisions, but also the ability to cope with ordinary, everyday problems.

For guys

You can show, as well as prove, your sincere love to a girl through actions and words by discussing joint plans for the future. If you immerse yourself in dreams together, it will bring you closer, strengthen mutual trust, and the girl will feel stability and solidity of intentions.

You should never forget about compliments and admiration for your girlfriend. Do not neglect words about love, she needs to hear them. Thanks to such attention, a woman will feel tenderness and care.

For girls

There are several simple ways you can prove your love to a guy:

Yes, the way to a man's heart really is through his stomach. You need to pamper your chosen one with his favorite dishes and surprise him with unusual recipes. He will certainly appreciate such a manifestation of care and attention.
Spend as much time together as possible. Every couple should have common interests, and you must try to find them. Watching movies or traveling to interesting places is the beginning of people being ready to devote all their time to each other. If the girl is ready, for example, to go to football with the guy or show interest in his passion for computer games, that’s great. He will understand and properly appreciate that his interests are shared.
Nice words, support, praise for any achievements will show the guy that he is admired and appreciated.

For boys

For a girl to understand that you love her, you need to be very attentive: know what films she likes, what music she listens to. Perhaps she is interested in collecting or beadwork: this is a great chance to make a good gift.

You don’t need to limit yourself to communicating only on social networks. It's better to take a walk in the park or go to the cinema. Don’t be shy and silent, because girls like interesting, cheerful boys with a good sense of humor.

For girls

To show a boy that you love him, you can ask what he is interested in, his achievements in school or sports competitions. For future relationships to be strong, you need to learn to be honest with each other and find common interests.

Boys like girls who are smiling and open to communication. You need to laugh more often and always be in a good mood.

For husbands

In order to answer the question of how to prove to my wife that I love her very much, I need to remember the atmosphere of romance that surrounded her during the candy-bouquet period. A woman always needs tenderness, support and affection. We should not allow the drab life and routine to consume the wife and make her think that she is no longer loved.

Kisses, hugs, compliments, words of support and just heart-to-heart conversations are things that should never disappear from a relationship.

For wives

Not only women, but also men need love, support, and attention. Your husband will always be pleased to hear kind words. Intimate life should also not become commonplace: erotic lingerie and role-playing games will diversify sexual relationships and strengthen marriage.

A joint vacation or a trip to a country that the husband has long wanted to visit, a trip, for example, on a fishing trip, will have a beneficial effect on the marital relationship.

Realizing your worth and importance is important for every girl. Men, by their nature, are concrete and practical. This is why all emotions are tied to action. When a guy experiences deep feelings, he tries to show them through protection and care, as well as an attempt to fulfill a woman’s dream.

Daily Activities

1. Support, empathize and encourage during difficult periods of life. Don't be left alone at such moments. At the same time, do not impose your help; it is better if you simply ask what you can do for her now.

2. Give gifts, flowers. They may not be chic bouquets or expensive gifts, but at least they will be there . Gifts are a tangible expression of love and affection.

3. Show attention and interest in her affairs. Ask how the day went, how she would like to spend the evening. Actively listen when she talks to you (nod, ask clarifying questions).

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4. Treat her with respect: be polite and speak respectfully of her in her absence. By the way, if you judge and blame her behind your back, then remember that this is your choice. So who is to blame? Relationships are equal partnerships.

5. If you are discussing a serious issue, do not start joking, this is inappropriate and disrespectful towards the girl.

6. Help around the house without special instructions or requests.

Romantic actions

1. Write to her in a letter how you feel. Normal, by hand. Although electronic is also suitable. Girls love such actions and displays of emotion because they themselves are emotional. You can write a short phrase on a sticker and stick it where it will definitely catch her eye.

“I'll think about you all day”

“I can’t wait to see you again.”

2. If you don't live together, make it a habit to say goodnight every day. This is a very powerful way to show that you care and love her:

Make it clear that the girl is on your mind every night;
You will be the last thing she thinks about before she falls asleep.
This will give her the opportunity to talk about any problems she has had during the day, which will bring you closer.

3. Give sweets (chocolate, candy, ice cream). They don’t cost a lot of money, and besides, chocolate promotes the production of the pleasure hormone - let her associate this with you.

4. Organize a dinner together (buy a bottle of wine and pizza) or a picnic (marinate the meat). Well, here it’s worth starting from the girl’s taste.

5. Show your feelings when she least expects it from you:

Sneak up to your lover while she's cooking and give her a quick kiss.
Give her a hug before you leave.
Hold her close when you walk together on a cold day.
Take her hand when you go outside.

6. Remember the anniversary of the relationship, the girl’s birthday, do not forget to congratulate her on the holidays. Now there are a large number of applications that will remind you of important events. Install them, add all the people who are significant to you and don’t get into trouble because you are forgetful.

7. Show your attitude towards her in public: hold her hand while walking, hug her. If you meet someone you know, don’t distance yourself from her, introduce her to your friends when greeting her.

8. Boast about it and praise it in front of others. You can do this in front of her too. Let him listen and be embarrassed.

9. Take selfies together. This is very captivating and attractive to girls. We love to take pictures, but when a guy takes out a smartphone and wants to take a picture of himself with us, it has some kind of sacred meaning for girls and they lose their heads from the feeling of their importance to you.

10. Call her by some cute nickname. It can be derived from her name, it can be from the category of “babies”, “honeys”, “sweets” or the classic zoo “bunny”, “mouse”, “kitty”. What is enough imagination? The main thing is that it is affectionate and not offensive (“bun”, “filly”).