Who is a phlegmatic person: complete characteristics and compatibility with other types of temperament

Hello dear readers! In the summer, near my house, I found a cute little exotic animal - a turtle. The children were happy with such a find and chased her around the yard and looked after her. And I looked at her and thought that in vain they call turtles slow animals - she moved quite quickly. Perhaps she really wanted to go home? And then another thought came to me: after all, people can also be slow, very slow, but when something happens, or they need to solve something quickly, they “go into fifth gear,” and it turns out that the person is not so “ turtle.” In this article we will talk about the stereotype of “slow” people – phlegmatic people. We will look at who a phlegmatic person is, how he manifests himself and in what he can achieve considerable success.

general characteristics

Hippocrates still lives in his theories. He determined that:

A phlegmatic person is a slow person, since phlegm “flows” in him, which means lymph. For such a person everything is always calm, he is not inclined to take risks, and he rarely has emotional outbursts.

The characteristics of a phlegmatic person differ from melancholic and choleric people in the strength of the nervous system and the processes in it. They are characterized by:

• determination;
• peace and tranquility;
• he is a peacemaker, he will always smooth out conflicts;
• reasonable, tries to analyze the situation;
• speech is smooth, sedate;
• moderate actions and emotions;
• gets along with everyone, but must have personal space;
• Patience is almost the main description of personality.

Character traits

Depending on the educational process in which a phlegmatic person grew up, he will have different character traits. But the main external manifestations of emotional reactions will be similar. So, what are the pros and cons of a person with this type of temperament?

Advantages and disadvantages

Like other types of temperament, phlegmatic cannot be only good or only bad. Therefore, let's look at the positive and negative aspects.

Advantages:

• reaches the goal, sometimes even moves too stubbornly towards it;
• high efficiency, this makes it possible to earn respect in the team;
• peaceful, tries not to conflict;
• resistant to stress - this is highly valued in the team;
• knows how to wait a long time, especially when the reward is great;
• stable nervous system;
• seeks comfort for himself, and, which is very good, for those around him.

The shortcomings of phlegmatic people sometimes irritate even the most frivolous sanguine people. Let's take a quick look at what they are:

• It is very difficult for them to get used to a new environment, rapid changes in conditions are very stressful for them;
• they exhibit apathy, a tendency to loneliness, lethargy, the properties of their nervous system are as follows;
• it is difficult for them to show sociability, since there is almost none;
• they are stingy in showing emotions;
• tend to close themselves off from others about their problems and experiences;
• are inert, this hinders their personal growth.

The good news is that speed can be “increased” if you set a goal. They are purposeful!

Phlegmatic introvert

Phlegmatic people constantly strive for solitude. They are stressed by noise and din; they find it difficult to tolerate parties and noisy companies. Among phlegmatic people, almost all are introverts. And this is understandable. They “feed” on energy from within. To fulfill their need for communication, it is much better for them to talk in private rather than in public.

Such people do not go public, since they are quite satisfied with their quiet, cozy place.

Phlegmatic extrovert

It’s generally a fantasy for phlegmatic people to be extroverts.
Sometimes you can’t pull them out with a stick for a birthday or corporate party. Most often, if you manage to pull them out, they will stand by the window and think about their own things. Rather, among such individuals you will find ambiverts who have an additional type of temperament - sanguine, or close people have brought up sociability and openness in him.

Features of a phlegmatic man

Men with such a temperament do not have a sweet life in our society. They constantly have to prove their success. In our society there is still a stereotype: “He who stands up gets his slippers.” And many believe that phlegmatic people will not achieve much due to their slowness.

But I will boldly declare that this is a myth. I have a friend with this psychotype who is developing his own business, receives a healthy income, and has a large family with a beautiful wife to boot! Therefore, success is not measured in a slow or fast pace of life, it depends on the development of personality and the desire to develop.

The strengths of phlegmatic men outweigh their weaknesses. They are most often monogamous, taking care of their other halves as best they can. But they are not rich in imagination and words, which greatly upsets their chosen ones.

Also, you will not wait for the initiative to go to the forest or to the sea; such men prefer to tinker with the car or computer. But if they get down to business, they won’t calm down until they complete it 200%.

Phlegmatic man

Features of a phlegmatic woman

Such women have a certain coldness and aloofness. They are more self-directed. They are calm and difficult to anger. Therefore, it is comfortable with such women: they will create a “safe haven” at home, create a cozy atmosphere.

But those around her will have to try hard to evoke emotions in her. No matter what they do to her, she will remain outwardly “cold,” although she will internally appreciate the impulses of your soul.

Phlegmatic girl

Phlegmatic: characteristics of a woman

She exudes calm and confidence. It is difficult to quarrel with such a woman. She will not irritate you with frivolous antics, squandering, or endless telephone conversations.

Phlegmatic women are distinguished by extraordinary constancy and affection. True, she will be satisfied with a decisive life partner who can support her in difficult times. It is important that he does not expect wild impulses from her in expressing feelings: she is not capable of them.

Strictness and restraint are the essence of a phlegmatic person. The characteristics of a woman of this type also include patience and diligence. But excessive stress will cause her mental discomfort and rejection.

In a word, she needs a subtle and sensitive man who can understand and accept her phlegmatic nature. If her chosen one awakens in her not just sensuality, but at least responsiveness, she will reward him like a king. She has no equal in arranging a family home and supporting it.

How to raise a phlegmatic child

Such children are the dream of many parents. Where you plant them, that’s where they will stand, and where you put them, that’s where you’ll pick them up. And everything would be fine, but they somehow need to develop: physically, emotionally. Therefore, parents will have to make a lot of effort to raise a Human.

A phlegmatic child can easily drive you into a frenzy when you try to teach or educate him or her about something. If he is stubborn, then only a bolt from the blue can make him change his mind.

Learning lessons with him is torture for a choleric mother. Valerian and other effective sedatives are used. One mother said just that: “For me, it’s better to plow 3 shifts than to learn homework with my son in one evening!” Yes, it’s not sweet for choleric mother in this case either...

But such children are very attached to you in early childhood, since it is difficult for them to adapt to kindergarten, to a new team. These people are often referred to as “not like kindergarteners.” And that's okay. Don’t make children hysterical; if it’s difficult for him around other children, it’s better to teach him communication skills, give him time to adapt, be there.

When phlegmatic people are shy in childhood, their speech is slow, I ask you - do not rush the baby in this case! Build confidence in him, don’t push him, and give him time to comprehend new information.

Often the hobbies of such children are construction toys, mosaics, and puzzles. Contribute to their development. Teenagers tend to rebel, so forceful methods do not work with them.

Phlegmatic child

A slow sloth, a hoarder, a silent and stubborn person often causes discontent among adults. Although he doesn't cause them much trouble. The phlegmatic kid is obedient, peaceful and reasonable beyond his years. He is characterized by childish responsibility and efficiency.

He doesn't need many toys. He can tinker with his favorite one-eared bear or shabby hare every day. In games, he never strives to dominate, being content with second roles. But he strictly follows the rules of the game.

In the eyes of the parents of other children, he is a clear example of accuracy and diligence. Teachers always trust him with the most important assignments. But exercises that need to be done for speed can baffle him.

Such a child also has difficulties with communication. He doesn’t get along well with children: if he’s friends, it’s with only a few kids; If he quarrels with someone, he can break off the relationship completely.

Its main problem is poor adaptability to new conditions. Therefore, he goes to kindergarten without any mood; Later he takes a long time to get used to the school staff. It is necessary to encourage initiative, teach a sense of time and develop communication skills.

Parting words for phlegmatic people

Working on yourself will allow you to get rid of natural lethargy. Awareness is your main help. Thanks to her, you will be able to awaken the best qualities of other temperaments. The main thing is not to deviate from the path of self-development: it will lead you to new facets of your individuality. And perseverance and determination will be more than enough for you.

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Compatibility with other temperament types

Phlegmatic people prefer not to “combine” with anyone. But if they are already in a situation of short or long communication, let's see what comes out of it.

With a choleric person

Choleric and phlegmatic are a mixture of calm and storm. But, oddly enough, it happens often. This is because opposites attract. In friendship, these are absolutely incompatible people. A choleric person will be irritated by slowness, stubbornness and tranquility. Of course, what sane choleric person would agree to another opinion that differs from his?

A phlegmatic person will be stressed by a constant storm. Still, I want to be friends with a more peaceful person. But there are also long-term friendships when friends are united by many factors.

With a sanguine person

The friendship between a phlegmatic person and a sanguine person is likely to be superficial. This is due to the sanguine person’s frivolity and “thick-skinned” phlegmatic nature. They need to look for common ground of interests, otherwise friendly relations will not last long.

With a melancholic person

Melancholic and phlegmatic: there is no smell of long-term friendship here either. No, well, theoretically it can be, but of all 4 types of people with melancholic, relationships will be the most fragile. A phlegmatic friend will be fed up with eternal “whining,” while a melancholic friend will suffer from misunderstanding and desire for the former’s loneliness.

With a phlegmatic person

It is easier for people of the same temperament to be friends, because they can understand each other. Both phlegmatic people have a great time over a cup of tea, looking at a smartphone, discussing some common topic, again looking at a smartphone. Phlegmatic friends prefer to spend time not at a ski resort, but in a room with a TV, watching some new film.

Such friendship is beneficial for both. Just how long it will last is the question. Without an emotional component, friendships also crack.

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Phlegmatic and relationships

Marriage and love relationships among phlegmatic people are not emotionally saturated. Often their partners suffer from this and cannot withstand constant external composure.

With a choleric person they can have an excellent marriage. A stormy choleric spouse will calm down next to a peaceful, balanced, phlegmatic spouse. Here compatibility is quite high, provided that each partner tries to maintain the relationship and not get nervous over trifles.

The union with a sanguine person is quite strong, but there is a danger of existing in parallel. The sanguine person will mind his own business, the phlegmatic person will mind his own. It will be difficult for them to communicate emotionally.

With a melancholic person... Good advice: not worth it. It will be torture for both, but if there is great love... Then what could be a hindrance?!

With a phlegmatic person, a marriage union will be very strong, but boring. But a better partner in terms of loyalty and devotion cannot be found regardless of compatibility.

Signs of a phlegmatic person:

• Calmness, tranquility;
• Good nature, smoothing out conflicts;
• Reasonableness, tendency to analyze the situation;
• Smooth, measured speech;
• Minimal gestures and facial expressions;
• Moderation in all your actions and actions;
• Unpretentiousness, getting along with others.

According to the points, a phlegmatic person is an ideal neighbor, colleague, assistant. Not only will he not interfere, but “you won’t find him during the day.” At the same time, in terms of hard work and diligence, phlegmatic people come first.

In addition to behavioral qualities, some psychologists claim that this type of temperament can be recognized by external signs. For example, they are characterized by a tendency to be overweight, roundness of outlines and shapes, smoothness of gait, slowness of speech and movements . Even without problems with adipose tissue, they have a massive build.

Suitable professions

I repeat, people with a phlegmatic personality type are terrible workaholics. That is why in professional activities these are practices. They do not tend to lead, but they make very responsible administrators who will do more than what they are assigned. They have excellent abilities to perform monotonous activities, so they choose stable professions for themselves.

Phlegmatic people can work:

• dispatchers,
• engineers,
• laboratory assistants,
• system administrators,
• operators,
• veterinarians,
• lyricists,
• proofreaders,
• composers.

But this does not mean that this type of personality cannot communicate at all at work. Such people make excellent doctors and accountants.

They are not recommended to work in places of rapid response, the threat of unforeseen circumstances, in conditions of abrupt switching, changing working conditions. They will not achieve success in journalism as animators or secretaries.

Strengths and weaknesses of phlegmatic people

Strengths

The strengths of phlegmatic people include the ability to carry out tedious tasks. They have a really good understanding of both people and tasks. Phlegmatic people are always calm and easy-going.

Phlegmatic people are very stable. They have no problems with anger or rejection by others. They do not suffer from destructive emotions.

Weak sides

When it comes to making changes, they stubbornly resist them. And the more they are put under pressure, the more they will resist these changes.

They tend to be not participants, but only observers.

Famous personalities

Among famous personalities, people of different professions were phlegmatic. Among them there are creative personalities, composers, engineers, writers and even managers. For example, it was news to me that Stalin also had this type of temperament. But, as historians say, despite this psychotype, the leader of the USSR held everyone in an “iron fist.”

Famous phlegmatic people: Galileo Galilei, Steven Seagal, Nicole Kidman, Immanuel Kant, Joseph Stalin, Gennady Zyuganov, Mikhail Kutuzov.

Phlegmatic in career

The presence of inertia and lack of initiative leads to the fact that phlegmatic people are not able to become leaders. Of course, there are exceptions to all rules, but representatives of this type of temperament are more comfortable in positions where it is important to be attentive and persevering.

This type of worker is never late and always delivers projects on time. No errors or delays. Phlegmatic people are distinguished by an increased degree of responsibility and the ability to work efficiently within their competence.

Representatives of this type of temperament will work extremely slowly, but efficiently. You should not entrust them with team work that involves communication. Best of all, they will express themselves in the process of independent work. Phlegmatic people are able to assimilate new data for too long, but remember it for quite a long time. The most suitable professions for this type of temperament are driver, scientist, programmer, jeweler, analyst.