You wake up, prepare breakfast, accompany your husband to work, devote the whole day to your business and worries, meet your spouse, spend time with him and go to bed.
Sounds like a pretty good life scenario. Your husband works, you have time for yourself. You're both happy, aren't you? No not like this.
The husbands of friends already have high positions, have created their own businesses, bought apartments, relax on the ocean shore and drive around the city in brand new cars.
Are you capable of making a difference? It’s unlikely, because you have a lot of troubles with children, home, relatives - women most often simply have no time to conquer the world.
But what about your beloved man? He provides for the family, he is your protector and reliable support. Isn’t it his “competence” to change your life for the better?
If you have also come to this conclusion and are now looking for an answer to the question of how to motivate a man to earn money, move away from his parents, or buy a car, you have found what you were looking for.
Men and boys
Before you understand how to motivate a man to act, you need to understand what type of man you are dealing with.
Based on the strength of motivation, setting goals and achieving them, all representatives of the opposite sex can be divided into two categories: men and boys.
The first type does not need your direct influence. He had long understood what he needed from life and how exactly to achieve it.
Remember any successful man - a businessman, an actor, a musician - they clearly follow their own path, gaining more and more fame, money and recognition in the process.
Do you think they need some extra motivation? No, it's just a myth. They need inspiration, which the girl they love can very well give.
As for the second type, the “boys” have not yet realized their role in this unfriendly world. Most often they are aimless and infantile.
If you get to know your lover, do not rush to think about breaking up. Your boy can become a real man, but only if he wants it.
This is where motivation is needed, because making money is not limited to going to work every day. A man must go to success, reach new heights.
Is it possible to inspire a man? Myths of women's training
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How to motivate a man
Are you ready to inspire your hero to great deeds? Then... just be close to him. Yes, it's that simple. If there is a real man next to you who loves and appreciates you, all you can do is maintain this idyll.
Delight him, surprise him with new culinary masterpieces, or learn how to give a professional relaxing massage.
Develop intellectually and become a more interesting woman. Show the man that you do not stand in one place, but strive forward with him.
Nothing can motivate a man to succeed more than having an ideal soul mate. This statement is about you, isn't it?
Why you need to inspire and how to do it
You ask: “Why should I inspire him, why can’t he get off the couch himself?”
He can't because he doesn't want to. The answer is very simple. Just think, I once wanted to. And he gave flowers before. And he paid compliments. All because I was literally inspired by you. If you could maintain interest, everything would be the same and even better. If something went wrong, then you cannot look at it with reproach and look for the catch only in it. First of all, you need to pay attention to yourself and your attitude towards your loved one.
. Below we will look at some tips on how to achieve an idyll in a relationship the right way.
Be beautiful, engage in self-development
Any woman should take care of herself. Think back to yourself at the beginning of your relationship. Did he really fall in love with the dressing gown, the strange tail on his head and your dissatisfied appearance? A man loves with his eyes - this is a long-known and proven fact. Be beautiful always and everywhere, even be special at home, because every minute you should be the one for him. Tender, desirable, mysterious - the way he likes you. Take a piece of paper, make a list of what he once noticed in you, check if this is the case now. Think about it.
Have interests and hobbies. If your only hobby is looking for flaws in your partner, then this is completely sad. Engage in professional development, do handicrafts, read books - the level of your hobbies will sooner or later make a man want to grow with you.
Accept him as he is
Don’t try to change a man: if you fundamentally want to change him, then this is not your man. Try to understand his thoughts, feelings, aspirations. They brought him up and taught him everything as a child - that was enough for him.
You can only guide and be an assistant, as faithful and reliable as he is to you. Feminine nature has always been endowed with a sense of special tact, sensitivity, gentle instruction - just use your natural talent to get results.
Don't do a man's job
This is a very big mistake. Pretend to be weak, even if you know how to hammer nails and unclog drains.
A man should feel needed, should know that only he can cope with a certain job. Even if you had to perform a man's duties, never tell him: “I did this work for you.”
Say better: “You could do a better job than me,” “You definitely could have done it more reliably.”
Believe me, if he doesn’t notice your new hair color right away, then he will notice, remember, and really do his job better than you. Most men are not complex people at all.
Please note : Men
are ready to help if you just ask them nicely and make it clear that they can handle it.
If you believe in your loved one, he will move mountains.
Believe him
Trust him with everything. A successful man must feel his freedom. There is nothing good in eternal attempts to direct or push him somewhere. A successful person will not do anything unless he wants to - that’s a fact.
Find out more here, how else you can motivate a man
Even if some decision seems obvious to you, there is no need to impose your opinion on your partner.
Women, on an intuitive level, often see through the situation, but a man needs to weigh everything and make a decision.
He will cope with everything and, most likely, will come to the right conclusion - just wait for it. Believe also his decisions, even if they sometimes seem crazy. Men, as a rule, set big goals and go towards them.
If at the first steps he hears from his beloved that he is a failure and nothing will work out, what kind of success can we talk about?
He will be a support for you if you are a support for him
It’s just that a man should always be a support, and a woman
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in special cases.
And that's completely normal. The male sex in general is very often belittled for any weaknesses.
But a man is also capable of making mistakes, he may not meet expectations - this is normal, because we are all human. Your support at such moments is the first and most reliable help.
If you at least once hinted at his mistakes that, most likely, he is a loser, then, believe me, the man will remember these words for a long time and will stop going towards his goal completely, but he only failed once.
He will have enough strength for 5, 10 attempts - as long as you support him and push him to do the right things.
Inspire
Every day and every minute create comfort in your home, around you, around it. If financial stability lies mainly on men's shoulders, then creating comfort and warmth lies on women's shoulders.
Nothing compares to the confidence that after a hard day at work, home is always loved and welcomed. The most stable inspiration for a man is the comfort of home, the confidence that he is loved.
Otherwise, why work and try? To be greeted at home with an eternally dissatisfied look?
Important!
Your smile and support are the best things to come back to in the evening.
As for small acts of inspiration: even a short SMS during the working day can become a significant reason to move mountains. Write to him before a difficult day that he will definitely cope with everything.
And at the end of the day, he will feel like a hero also because you expected him to succeed. Aren't you pleased to be part of your man's success? Isn't it nice to be involved in his working days even from a distance?
Another incredibly effective way to inspire is to make a man think about himself, create intrigue, and keep him in suspense. He has enough of any other tension in his life, but he can only want pleasant expectations from you.
By the way, about intrigues, SMS and ways to inspire the man you like, this video is very apt and apt:
Don't forget about gratitude and support
This is an obvious point, but many people often forget about it. Your life is directly connected to the life of your partner. Your words of gratitude are a great way to make your life together better.
Give thanks for the smallest things. For a man, as mentioned earlier, it is very important to feel like a hero in your eyes. If you take gifts and compliments for granted, you will very soon lose the desire to give compliments at all.
When it comes to careers, men, frankly speaking, are sometimes terrible braggarts. But they really need to know that you value their success.
And yes, he achieves every new goal only with your help and your support, so don’t forget to tell him how great he is, and he, in turn, will not forget to set himself new and new goals.
Learn how to compliment a man correctly.
How to motivate a boy
When dealing with a boy, you won't be able to use motivation as a panacea for all your problems.
Your chosen one may get a promotion or open his own small business. But the problem will not go away.
The boy needs to be re-educated into a man. Ideally, this should have been done not by you, but by his parents, but in such situations, life practically gives us no choice.
What problems do infantile men and, subsequently, their wives encounter? Lack of purpose. This entails the absence of an action plan, and then a passive life position.
In a word, a man floats with the flow and slowly degrades. How can a loving woman make her man come to his senses and start doing something? The answer lies in the problem itself.
Goal, plan, life position. It is this chain that connects a man with his success. The absence of at least one component causes inaction, stress and passivity.
To be beautiful
It’s not for nothing that they say that beauty is a terrible force. A beautiful woman delights her man and inspires him to do great things. And it is appearance that creates the first impression of any person. If a woman has an attractive appearance that intrigues a man at the first meeting, then he will desire new dates and want a serious relationship. Being beautiful is the responsibility of a Great Woman. If you do not follow this rule, then you will not be able to truly be an inspiration for your man. Believe me, any man is very inspired by female beauty. It is with a beautiful goddess that he will not want to be lazy and will strive to match his delightful wife, who looks great always and everywhere. And next to a tired and sloppy lady in a gray tracksuit, no man will strive to become better.
To “inspire” someone, you need to be beautiful, friendly, in love with the one you inspire. You must believe in your man, giving him the opportunity to delight you. At the same time, you should be able to enjoy life. And this means that you need to learn to appreciate every minute of your life, to be able to find beauty in everything. When going out into nature, try to fill yourself with energy by looking at the foliage, inhaling the aroma of trees, flowers, and earth. Appreciate what you have at the moment, enjoy the little things. After all, this is so important! In this way, you will constantly fill yourself, absorb the beauty of the world through pleasure and contemplation.
Only such a beautiful, happy and energetic woman can turn her man into a hero. At the same time, such a woman does not do anything supernatural. She simply enjoys her life and is filled with this pleasure, giving her energy to the people around her, and in particular, her loved one. She is simply always there, giving him her love and sharing her beauty. And the man should do the rest.
Remember that tears, reproaches and insults are the road to nowhere. Because with such actions and actions you will not be able to inspire your man. The only thing this can lead to is a break in the relationship. Sometimes, of course, some girls get what they want in this way, but this is only an appearance. In fact, men do not tolerate women's tears, and are ready to do anything to avoid them. But believe me, you will not feel value from such heroic actions of a man. Because tears, quarrels and conflicts destroy female nature and devastate it. The benefits obtained in this way do not bring any pleasure. Only when you can inspire your man with your beauty, fullness and love, then it will bring you true pleasure and give you even more energy and strength.
Target
It’s worth starting with her. It should be one big goal that cannot be achieved in one week or even a month.
Buying an apartment or a car will be a good goal, but it’s better to let them be components of something bigger.
“Move your family to New Zealand”, “Get on the cover of Forbes”, “Earn $1,000,000”, “Swim in all the Oceans of the world” - these are some interesting goals for you.
Also remember the following rules:
- The goal must have a deadline. Earning $1,000,000 can take your entire life, but setting a one-year deadline will significantly speed up everything you do.
- The goal must be achievable. Your man may be able to become the most popular singer or actor, but becoming the President of the United States or the head of the People's Republic of China is already on the verge of fantasy.
- The goal should be flexible but unambiguous. This will save you from a lot of stress and failure. Agree, it is much easier to “Move to New Zealand” than “Move to a VIP apartment with an ocean view in New Zealand.”
- The goal shouldn't be the end of the story. Only by believing in the feasibility of your dream and working out a plan in case it is achieved will you receive additional strength and motivation.
- Purpose should be the meaning of your life. You can dream of becoming a football player while still working in an office. Don't make excuses and make your goal your number one priority.
Being a wise woman, try to ensure that the man's goal also concerns you and your children.
What can't be inspired
Of course, one cannot be inspired by scandals, shouting, or tyranny.
A wife can both inspire her husband to heroic deeds and, conversely, make him a loser with daily brainwashing and humiliation. You cannot constantly demand something from a man and force him to do it as quickly as possible. If a woman appears before him every day with a distorted face, an eternally dissatisfied grimace, then there will be no inspiration. Next to a sad lady, the man will also be depressed.
You cannot inspire by increasing the number of demands.
If a man tries his best, constantly surprises and pampers his woman, and instead of words of gratitude he receives only reproaches, then the inspiration goes away. They do not seek good from good. And if a woman constantly increases the volume of her requests, then she risks being left with nothing.
Can't be boxed in
Every action has a reaction. Often a woman sets boundaries, beyond which a man will never be happy, let alone inspired. For example, if he brings home less money than expected, there will be a scandal. If a man wants to look for himself in another field of activity, then only on the condition that he does not quit his job during the search period. And then your partner begins to feel as if in a vice. What kind of inspiration is there if the wife always grumbles and swears when he does something not according to her orders?
You can't give ultimatums
It is impossible to speak in a commanding tone and at the same time clearly set ultimatums! After all, by dictating terms to a man, you risk getting a rebuff. Pointing out that if he doesn't do it your way, then you will leave him, be prepared to leave. Ultimatums can only destroy, not inspire.
Plan
This will require not only a good imagination, but also mental abilities. Men make plans better than women, so ideally your lover should do all this.
You can help him with details and additional information. Be your man's faithful assistant, let him be the top manager of your common future.
The plan for achieving the goal itself looks like a huge ladder, the steps of which are actions and responsibilities.
It is not enough to break down the goal this way: “Buy a car = earn money + find a seller.”
How much money is needed? How to earn them? What kind of car do you want to buy and where? All these details must be in the plan.
As a result, the man will receive ready-made instructions for achieving success. All that remains is to follow the rules and act, act, act.
Demotivators
What not to do:
- Demanding kills desire. In order for the husband to earn better money and achieve certain goals, complaints and reproaches must be excluded.
- Criticize and humiliate. This is an unconstructive method of motivation.
- Scold. This will not help you cope with difficulties, but will lower your self-esteem.
Men need female support to succeed. There is a fine line between being supportive and assertive. Support should be unobtrusive and delicate.
Life position
You can have a goal, a ready-made plan, but still sit still and do completely useless things. This is a passive life position.
It is formed along with the character and inner core of a man. Weak and helpless boys will never be purposeful and self-confident.
Are you able to change his life position? After all, such a radical change requires a serious restructuring of human psychology.
We list the factors on which the chances of success depend:
- age;
- the power of love for a woman;
- sincerity of desire to achieve the goal;
- presence of a serious problem and unwillingness to tolerate it.
It is much easier for a thirty-year-old man to change his outlook on life than for a fifty-year-old man. With age, our psyche “hardens” and we are less and less influenced by our environment.
The power of love inspires change. Loving is the best thing a woman can do for a man.
The desire to achieve a goal is important, because a man must truly want to change himself. Make sure that he himself chose the purpose of his life, and did not just agree with your manipulations.
People rarely change their lives just like that. There must be a reason, which is usually a boring problem.
Buying an apartment because of quarrels with neighbors, changing jobs because of an evil boss - the examples are obvious.
Let the man look at your efforts, your desire to see him strong and great. Inspire him with your faith and devotion. This may take time, so be prepared to wait.
Watch his actions. If nothing changes, and you have been living in anticipation of a miracle for more than one year, prepare a farewell speech and pack your things.
Some men are unable to change. There may be several reasons for this: upbringing, environment, the influence of a passive environment or lack of love for you.
Staying with such a man and continuing to believe in him is pointless. However, you yourself will understand this over time.
Positive Attitudes
Almost all words spoken by a woman in a fit of emotion are perceived as clear instructions, without which it is impossible to achieve the desired. And if you constantly tell him that he is not capable of anything, demonstrate irony, vehemently criticize, then you should not expect success. And if he nevertheless manages to achieve the task, then he will be grateful for this not to you, but to another woman.
Therefore, you can inspire a man to earn money or achieve heights only with positive words, faith in his capabilities, expressed out loud. Don’t be afraid to tell him once again that everything is working out for him and he will be able to complete the task.
Motivation levels
Motivation is the desire to act in an organized, purposeful manner and get results, which manifests itself at different levels of the psychological structure.
As a result of the formalization of motivation, goal settings (goal settings) arise, which determine the direction and result of actions.
Cognitive, thinking
Almost every man understands the need for change, gaining new knowledge or additional profit. Everyone is capable of creating the greatest plans and projects that remain forever within the brain without being implemented in practice.
This is due to the fact that we perceive mental results as part of our achievements, which in reality may not work out, so it is better to calmly dream about how to get rich by delivering matches than to actually try to do it.
Therefore, a woman’s participation consists in discussing possible solutions at all stages of logical reasoning: collecting information - identifying contradictions - posing a problem - ways to overcome it - making a management decision.
In life, it often happens completely differently: a woman stops an undesirable decision for no apparent reason. For example, a man thinks for a long time and prepares to take a course as a massage therapist; he has obvious abilities for this.
And the woman categorically declares: I don’t agree with anything in the world, because her friends said that in this profession the husband will start “walking left and right.” Trust and the ability to productively discuss and plan the situation are lost; in the future, the man will simply stop sharing plans and generally lose his reserve of ambition.
Emotive, sensual
This is a completely female area, which is necessary for a man to feel psychological comfort, to be able to relax and purposefully use creative energy.
If he feels restless, uneasy, is forced to make excuses or worry about small everyday moments, he will never “grow up” and will not be able to overcome family troubles. Or, on the contrary, he will be completely immersed in the work process, ignoring family responsibilities.
So the woman is responsible for the balance of the relationship, for the readiness for change, but she must understand that this is a long, labor-intensive process.
For an ordinary manager to become a branch director, years must pass filled with various problems and stress. And all this time the woman helps, supports, consoles, inspires, and does not scold or reproach on every occasion.
Behavioral, volitional
The most difficult level, which requires mutual trust and coordinated actions. If you are ready to discuss difficult situations, overcome conflicts together and sympathize with each other, then you can easily begin more complex projects.
For example, to create your own business, because you are sure that in case of failure you will not shift responsibility onto each other or run away with a common cash register to the Canadian border.
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A great way to make a general decision is to use the Cartesian square. Take a sheet of paper and draw it into 4 “windows”, in each of which write: What will happen if we do this? What happens if we don't do this? What won't happen if we do this? What won't happen if we don't do it?
This way you will get a clear picture of the results and be able to compare possible pros and cons.
We recommend reading: How to make your man the happiest.
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