It's boiling! Never do that: 10 reasons why your friends or colleagues are now ignoring you

Voice messages

Who even came up with them? Never send without prior agreement or absolute necessity. Especially to strangers. If you had to, be sure to apologize. Let's reveal a secret: people can be so busy that they don't have the opportunity to stop what they're doing, look for headphones and listen. Your message will be postponed until later and may be safely forgotten. It may be convenient to send them. Receive - no.

Reasons why people ignore

Why do people avoid and ignore? There are many reasons, both acceptable and unacceptable. Let's look at both. Ignoring people can occur in cases where people are worried about something and are in deep thought, and at this time we approach them and start a conversation. In the modern world, men and women are constantly preoccupied with something. Perhaps they recently had an important conversation that they need to think about, and now we want to divert their attention. Which ultimately leads to ignorance on their part.

It often happens that a person simply did not hear you. Perhaps there were a lot of people and noise in the room at the time, or he was wearing headphones and simply did not hear you. This can happen to anyone, but that doesn't mean the person does it intentionally. It also often happens that a person may be embarrassed at the moment and hesitate to answer. So he decides to avoid you.

Inappropriate or malicious reasons also appear quite often and are not difficult to identify. In this case, ignoring people occurs even if you try to attract the person's attention several times. That is, he deliberately ignores you and avoids the conversation.

Final Thoughts

To be fair, we must say that we have all been ignored by someone. But we are not perfect either, so it may well be that we have ignored other people over the years of our lives. So, with that said, I believe that when a person tries to ignore, it becomes a problem that needs to be addressed. Otherwise, everything may end in even bigger problems or an ordinary separation. Therefore, do not be afraid to solve problems and meet difficulties halfway. As a result, you will only become stronger and wiser.

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The answer cannot be ignored - what etiquette says

Etiquette and behavior modeling specialist Anna Chaplygina notes that ignoring messages in instant messengers and email cannot be called an established norm of our time. However, situations are different and sometimes it’s really easier to remain silent by pressing the treasured “invisible/mute/mark as unread” button than to waste energy on unconstructive correspondence. “Ideally, you should respond to everything you discover,” explains Anna. - But there are extreme cases. For example, when a message comes from someone very unpleasant to you. If you don't want to answer at all, don't open it. This is one of the extraordinary tricks. But before you resort to it, consider who you will make worse. Sometimes it is better to immediately say that you are not interested in the offer. A person who has not received feedback may begin to pester you in all channels - call, write SMS. Formulate your refusal calmly and without insults: “Good afternoon! Thank you for your offer. I’m very pleased, but at the moment I’m not interested.” Honesty is at least not painful.”

What is ignore, what is it for and how to use ignore correctly

So much has already been written and said about ignoring and total ignoring. But when I see what they write and say about him, I really want to dilute this mass of hype information with important, correct, sober thoughts of an adult, not an offended person, not a neurotic, not a victim, not a narcissist, not a deceiver who wants to make money from victims of love. Dilute this trash with your own thoughts, the thoughts of a person who has extensive experience in working with relationships in various variations and manifestations.

Here is a fundamental article about ignoring. Share this valuable information with those who are in a relationship or have broken up, because... ignoring in one form or another sooner or later now affects everyone (“thanks” to its popularization by “specialists”).

What is ignore, what types of ignore are there

Ignoring is a lack of reaction to a person’s manifestations.

Light ignoring is a conscious distance from a person and a delay or lack of reaction to his manifestations (lack of emotions, “turning deaf ears”).

Total ignore is the deliberate exclusion of any reaction to any manifestations of a person (even to thoughts about him in his own head).

Synonyms: silence on the air, coolness, silence, hide and seek, fall through the ground, disappear, evaporate, freeze, get out of your head, hammer.

There are a great many variations of ignore. But before using ignore in any of the variations, you need to think many times. And then think again and not use it.

Why use ignore?

Ignoring is usually used to get from a person what he himself does not do, to manipulate, to make him feel guilty, to be active, to move.

In professional language, it sounds like this: ignoring is used to frustrate a person’s need for communication (put up an obstacle that prevents the satisfaction of the need).

Many people believe that ignoring is the best way to get a loved one back. How much ignoring will help you get your ex back can be predicted by knowing the characteristics of relationships and partners. Not everyone is capable of ignoring (they don’t know how to use it correctly, they can’t stand it) and not everyone reacts to ignoring the way those who use it would like.

Is ignoring effective?

In fact, effectiveness is a characteristic of some kind of positive influence. It's hard to talk about effectiveness with ignorance. Because it has very little positive effect.

Ignoring is truly strong, a kind of thermonuclear remedy for treating unhealthy relationships (more precisely, for resurrection, resuscitation, when things can’t get any worse, the relationship has completely deteriorated, and these damaged relationships “don’t feel sorry” have collapsed).

In a normal, healthy relationship there is no place for ignoring in any of its manifestations.

Like any potent medicine, ignore has a lot of side effects, contraindications, and sometimes the risk of losing relationships and trust outweighs the possible benefits of its use.

Therefore, I would categorically not recommend using ignore without a purpose (when it is not indicated).

Any medicine, especially a potent one, if not indicated, is contraindicated.

The effectiveness (if we are talking about benefits) of ignoring is questionable and depends on the situation, but its influence (side effects) is extremely great, since it affects the need of every person for socialization, for communication, for receiving and transmitting information. Ignoring deprives such opportunities, and since we are social creatures, ignoring is perceived by the psyche as a threat to survival.

Therefore, if you ignore a person, you threaten his survival (this is how it is perceived, therefore it influences and increases your importance), and if you are ignored, then it seems to you like the “end of the world” (because your need to belong to society is affected and the impression is created that You have been expelled from the pack and your life is now in danger).

When to use ignore in a relationship

You can't use ignore in a relationship . Can't be used at all. No way. Not in any position.

Remember, if you are in a relationship (not broken up) - do not use ignore.

I'm ready to repeat this many more times.

Ignoring it only ruins everything. Playing the silent game in a relationship is perceived by the other partner as torture. And it does not lead to improvements or growth in your importance. Such behavior can sooner alienate a person than interest or captivate him.

Fixing relationships

dialogue,
attention to needs and boundaries,
filling your personal and shared life with events, emotions,
work on your adequacy,
development of sensory and emotional intelligence,
increasing its objective significance,
working with the subjective importance of a partner.

There is no ignore list on this list, as you can see.

But since you are interested, let’s explain when ignoring is justified and indicated.

The use of ignore depends on the goal you are pursuing:

If the goal is to improve them while in a relationship, then ignoring is a failed strategy, since problems have never been solved through silence and avoidance. It only got worse. Ignoring a person with whom you want to build a relationship means being deaf to his needs, boundaries, as well as being left with unmet needs and violated boundaries (after all, ignoring oneself is usually chosen as a way of responding to the violation of one’s own boundaries and the inability to satisfy one’s needs in relationships).
If the goal is to return to the partner whom you left and later regretted, then ignoring will also not be appropriate. It won’t help, but will only lower you even more in the eyes of the one you abandoned. A person already feels unwanted and unloved, offended. In this way, you can only bring back into a relationship a dependent, anxious, inadequate person who has no self-esteem and will not evoke in you those feelings and emotions that, as a rule, accompany a successful union. And if in this case you return the person to the relationship, you will quickly want to break up again.
If the goal is to restore a relationship with the person who abandoned you, then this is where ignoring can be used and would be appropriate. But you need to use it extremely carefully and know exactly when to stop and stop ignoring it. And you need to stop doing this at the moment when a person becomes as interested in dialogue with you as you are with him. Correctly carried out ignoring can increase your subjective significance for a person (provided that it was originally there at one time and provided that your objective significance was previously really high or grew during the absence of communication). If you are in a clearly weak position and the person does not want to communicate with you, then a correctly executed ignore with the correct input can help.
Another option when ignoring is appropriate is when you want, really want to break up with a person and directly, honestly, openly and openly tell him about it, but he does not react, but continues to overcome you, imposing his communication and violating your boundaries. Then yes, after several attempts to explain (two are enough, but one, as a rule, is not enough), you need to completely ignore the person and no longer catch his eye and not communicate under any circumstances. The correct input to ignore is also important here.
Attention! Ignoring an aggressive person with pronounced behavioral deviations (or mental disorders) is dangerous. This can cause a surge of aggression in your direction and even illegal actions. It is necessary to leave such people according to a well-thought-out scenario and have a shelter prepared in advance. There are centers that help those experiencing violence. You need to go there if such a problem is urgent and you are threatened.

How to use ignore correctly, if it is appropriate

When ignoring is appropriate and indicated, then the rules for its use do not need to be particularly explained. The pattern of correct behavior is intuitively simple and is a natural reaction to a person’s previous behavior.

You need to refrain from monitoring, thinking, memories, chance meetings and any information related to a person, not initiating communication in any way and not responding to the initiative (no matter how much you want, you need to understand that your reaction will satisfy the person’s need and will not lead to continued communication and restoration of relationships).

It is also important not to disseminate information about yourself, remove any activity and direct all energy (thoughts and actions) exclusively to yourself: to your life and development (increasing objective significance and getting rid of love addiction, while there is no communication, this is much easier to do).

You should not block - this is activity towards a person.
You should not erase unread messages - this is an activity towards a person. Read and do not respond, but also do not store and do not re-read. The best option is to read and delete.
There is no point in dropping incoming calls - this is also an activity towards a person. Mute the sound and wait until the call ends. Don't block. Don't call back.

The main rule for the correct use of ignore is the correct entry into ignore and its expediency/appropriateness.

What is the “correct entrance” to ignore and how to correctly enter ignore in a relationship

Again I have to remind you that it is wrong to ignore you if you are in a relationship. Ignoring them can destroy them.

You can enter ignore only in two cases:

If a person abandoned you, doesn’t want to have anything to do with you, betrayed you and/or is now ignoring you.

The very moment of separation is very important here, the final conversation in which you will need to honestly and frankly take your weak position. It's embarrassing and painful. In this position, you are a victim, you are extremely vulnerable and cannot influence the situation in any way. This is what needs to be acknowledged and shown, made clear, conveyed to the leaving, abandoning partner that you are truly sorry. It is important to show this without hysterics and aggression, without accusations. It is important to show not how the thrower is wrong, but to show how much you are hurt, how upset you are. Convey information that you do not want to break up. That you love and want to be together.

It is necessary to show that the person is dear, to offer all possible options for improving relations and to listen to all complaints, all grievances. Show that you are ready to improve and want to be together.

Tears are acceptable, some harsh expressions that characterize your dejected state are acceptable.

Hysterics, fights, scandals, damage to property, any physical impact, gross insults, restraint by force, violence, persuasion, threats, blackmail, manipulation of suicide and other inappropriate actions are unacceptable.

After you have made it clear how you feel, you need to act like a loving person and let go of the one who wants to leave. Treat the boundaries of another person with understanding and respect and understand (realize) that he is truly free and can leave if he wishes.

An example text is:

“I’m really sorry, I really love you and want to be together, but I can’t force you and force you to be close. I wish you happiness and love. I’m sorry that you made/made such a decision, but so be it. I won't bother you anymore."

All items must be returned. Simply because they will disturb you and cause unnecessary memories and associations.

The main criterion that you need to get rid of things is that you think about it. If you haven’t thought about it until you read it, you can leave it, it means you are not attached to them and they are not fixing your attention on your departed partner,

If you want your partner to return, then if possible, leave your things with him (you should try to do without them) and forget about them. Buy yourself some others instead. In order not to be tied by things to memories and past events.

After correctly entering the ignore mode, it is important not to react in any way to the person’s manifestations towards you until he reaches the stage of repentance and is ready for dialogue.

If you want to end a relationship with a person who is not ready for dialogue and does not hear you.

Doesn't let go. Blackmails, stalks, ruins your life, then the correct entrance is explanations without any subtext of the situation and conveying your reluctance to be together. No matter how difficult it is, you need to honestly, directly, openly and frankly say that you do not love a person. If they ask whether you loved, you should tell the truth - that you didn’t (they thought that you loved, but it turned out that you didn’t). This is necessary so that a person under no circumstances is left with ANY illusions or understatements, because this is what keeps him in love addiction. With your honesty and firmness, you will help the person survive the breakup and not hope for anything in vain (and you will also not feel like a “dog in the manger”, using the feelings of another person).

How to properly ignore

Let me remind you that ignoring is a tough manipulation. And it is right not to resort to it, but if ignoring is appropriate and started correctly, then it is not difficult to carry it out correctly - you just need to avoid any reaction to any manifestations of a person. Calls, SMS, social networks, instant messengers - everything is ignored without blocking. Blocking interferes because it does not give you the opportunity to monitor the transformation of a person’s condition, if any. I will note here that the scheme itself is simple, the difficult thing is to follow it.

When a person is very important to you, not reacting to his appearance is a feat and enormous willpower. In order to cope, you need to know what stages a person goes through, how they manifest themselves and what will happen next.

You need to know what to expect and what to be prepared for. Then it will be easier to ignore correctly.

Stages of transformation of the state of the person who left you:

Curiosity (a person manifests himself only to satisfy HIS need for a lack of information or the need to be important/needed/interesting/in demand/desired/loved, etc. There could be anything, it’s probably difficult to understand. This is definitely not about you)
Interest (here the person is already interested in what happened to you and why your reaction is different from the usual)
Anger (the person begins to get angry and show this anger towards you. These could be accusations, regrets about having a relationship, bewilderment at how you even allow yourself to do this and what you think about yourself. It is very difficult for someone abandoned in a weak position listen to such reproaches and do not give in to the temptation to enter into a conversation and remind how everything really was. You need to restrain yourself and continue to take care of yourself, only if you restrain yourself - the state of the partner who left you continues to transform and moves on to the next stage).
Acceptance (the person becomes silent, disappears, comes to terms with the fact that you are silent and do not answer, the understanding comes that you are offended and thoughts begin about why everything is exactly like this now, why you are behaving this way. This is the most difficult time for a partner, who was in a weak position, because it is at this stage, in silence, that his significance increases and he becomes stronger. Those who are not accustomed to such a position feel guilt, remorse and they have thoughts that “probably the partner who abandoned him was right and I shouldn’t be doing this to him.” What contributes to such feelings is that quite a lot of time has passed by this stage and the negativity has gradually gone away, the resentment has passed, nostalgia has appeared, and all the bad things have gradually been erased by our caring memory)
Repentance (the long-awaited desired stage, for the sake of which all the ignoring was actually started. A person regrets what happened and makes it known. Only when repentance appears, relationships have a chance of restoration and continuation. Not everyone reaches this stage. And sometimes, having reached it, they lose all progress, hearing the first “I'm sorry". Here it is important to focus not on words, but on actions. Repentance provides an opportunity for dialogue, and the goal of dialogue is to agree on the needs, boundaries and conditions under which relationships are possible.

There is no guarantee that a person will definitely go through all these stages if you ignore him correctly. But your correct behavior increases the likelihood and makes it possible for the relationship not only to recover, but also to improve subsequently.

When to stop ignoring

You can get carried away with ignoring and drag it out so much that you make the person’s return impossible or difficult, and ruin a comeback.

To prevent this from happening, remember: when a person has repented (and believe me, this is difficult, so you shouldn’t expect him to do this several times), you need to finally answer him, get in touch with him and listen to what he says. Necessarily. Agree to a conversation, a meeting, give the person the opportunity to finally speak.

Sometimes repentance is the only reason a person returns. That’s right, sometimes a person doesn’t want to restore the relationship, but simply regrets that he hurt you so much. And he wants to free himself from this overwhelming burden of guilt and responsibility.

Then further ignoring makes no sense. And it will most likely harm you.

If a person asks for forgiveness, you need to forgive him. Give him freedom from this guilt, otherwise this burden passes to you (after all, the person did everything he could, your choice not to forgive him means your responsibility). It is extremely difficult to bear guilt for something that is not your fault.

If you want to take revenge, do not answer a request for forgiveness with anything: neither yes nor no. The worst option for you is not to forgive, but to say: “there is no forgiveness for you.” Read more in this article.

Signs that you can stop ignoring:

All stages of transformation of your subjective significance for your departed partner have been completed (usually it begins with disgust, then indifference sets in, then curiosity appears, then interest, then anger, then acceptance, then repentance). Not everyone reaches this stage, but only those who subsequently have a chance to build a relationship again.
Communication with the person you ignored has ceased to be desirable and does not evoke strong emotions and the desire to “rush to the ends of the world.”
You want to listen more than talk
You have learned to talk about your needs, set boundaries, have worked on yourself and are ready to make an effort to build a healthy relationship (your partner is also ready to make an effort)

How men (women) react to being ignored

In our culture (Russia and the post-Soviet space) it is accepted that a man plays an active role, and a woman a passive one. This is how it has developed culturally and here we will not discuss whether it is right or wrong. This is how it is accepted among us, this is how it is embedded in us and is brought up in us in one way or another from early childhood.

That is why it is easier for a woman to ignore and more difficult to bear when she is ignored, and for a man, on the contrary: it is easier when he is ignored and more difficult to ignore himself. Simply due to gender characteristics.

And this brings a lot of confusion to the process of ignoring.

In essence, the female and male roles reflect the weak (passive) and strong (active) roles in relationships, respectively (this is how it happened and it does not always coincide and is tied to gender, I wrote about this here). But roles are not positions. A weak position and a weak role are not the same thing.

In general, it is advisable to ignore only those abandoned in a weak position (or those in a strong position and trying to end the relationship in an environmentally friendly manner, without ignoring).

It means both men and women can ignore, and they will have to react to being ignored, one way or another.

Therefore, it is more correct to talk about who can more easily tolerate being ignored from the point of view of position in the relationship, rather than from the point of view of gender.

At first, being ignored is more difficult to bear (and accordingly reacts to it more strongly: he worries more, thinks about it, gets upset, suffers) for those who find themselves in a weak position. The strong one especially does not even notice at first that he is being ignored, and perceives what is happening more as a deliverance from oppressive communication than as a problem.

Over time, the situation changes, if the ignore is carried out correctly, and the weak one experiences less and less, and the former strong one experiences more and more.

How to respond to being ignored

What to do if your loved one ignores you? How to respond to being ignored by your loved one?

You need to understand that if you formulate the question this way, you are most likely in an extremely weak position in the relationship.

When a person is in a weak position, he does not quite adequately perceive objective reality and can call something completely gray black. That is, to exaggerate the scale of the disaster.

Therefore, the very first step is to adequately assess what is happening and diagnose your position. It is very difficult to do this yourself, being inside the situation; it is better to seek help from an outsider who can impartially assess the processes taking place in your couple.

I often get asked the following questions:

What to do when a husband/wife plays the silent game
How to get someone out of your head
How to score on someone who scored on you
What to do if you are being ignored

In such cases, the first thing we do is find out what is hidden behind such formulations. Sometimes it is not ignorance at all, but a lack of satisfaction of leading needs. The partner, meanwhile, is quite suitable for a relationship, and the problem is the inability to satisfy one’s needs on one’s own, the use of dependent behavior patterns, the transference of child-parent relationships to the partner, and much more.

If ignoring is really ignoring, then you need to decide how to behave further depending on your position in the relationship.

When you are ignored it is very, very painful. This is unpleasant and causes a burning desire to hear an answer, to get it at any cost.

Stop being an empty place for a person, evoke in him at least some kind of reaction to yourself.

When you are ignored, a lot of energy appears, which directly burns out from within, because it does not find a way out or use. There is a desire to communicate, but there is no opportunity to get at least some feedback.

You need to react to being ignored according to your position in the relationship.

If it is strong, then be active, realize why the person who loves you has stopped communicating and is ignoring you, correct the situation, restore and heal the relationship.
If you are in a weak position and are in a relationship that has not broken up, then your fate is only to leave the person alone and not touch him until he manifests himself. Or if you are in a relationship and you are being ignored, then it is imperative to talk with the person when he remains silent (it is necessary to discuss the reasons for such behavior, express your feelings about this, set boundaries and talk about needs).
If you are abandoned in a weak position, that is, the separation has already occurred and you are being ignored, then mirroring and retaliatory ignoring is appropriate. There is nothing more you can do here, that’s why your position is weak.

What is ignore used for and when is it appropriate?

Ignoring (total ignoring) is appropriate only after a breakup; it can be used in order to increase your subjective significance for the person with whom you were in a relationship, but broke up on his initiative, given your extremely positive behavior (or at least just normal) and adequacy .

What can you say about those who use ignore in relationships?

Those who use ignore unconsciously are either in a strong position and simply have no desire to communicate, or they are counter-dependent and use ignore as a way to hide from affection that scares them.

In both of these cases, only the one who resorts to such behavior patterns, chooses them as reactions to life events, can do something about it. And not the one who suffers from such manifestations as a partner.

Almost everyone who deliberately uses ignore in a relationship is in a weak position and uses it as the only means to somehow influence the other person.

Ignoring in this case is manipulation in order to force a person to be what you need or do what you need.

Let me remind you that ignoring as manipulation works very, very poorly.

Like any other manipulations and provocations. These games do not make relationships better, more harmonious, healthier, stronger - they spoil them and destroy them by causing hostility and a desire to defend themselves (anger, hostility, resentment, aggression, jealousy) in the one being manipulated, and in the one who manipulates - dependence and fading of good feelings, transformation of the attitude towards an object that is necessary to satisfy one’s own needs, and is not valuable in itself.

Don't use ignore in relationships!

How to ignore someone who ignores you

Ignoring a person who is indifferent or unpleasant is very easy and even gives some pleasure (the purpose of such ignoring is to get rid of the person, to show that he is unnecessary and intrusive).

Ignoring a person who is needed and dear to you is very difficult and justified only in two cases - when he abandoned you (left in a strong position) or when he ignores you.

But to what extent can it be considered ignorant on your part to stop expressing yourself towards someone who is ignoring you? This is not ignoring, but common sense and mirroring what a person shows to you.

It is impossible to ignore someone who does not need us and who does not communicate with us.

To ignore means not to react to manifestations, since there are no manifestations, then it will not be possible to ignore. In such a situation, ignoring can only begin when any manifestations appear in your direction.

Conclusion

The conclusion from everything written is this: ignoring can be used as an effective means of getting your ex-partner back only if he left you for no apparent reason, because he took a strong position and lost interest in the relationship or became interested in someone else.

If the relationship is still alive, ignoring is inappropriate and dangerous.

I wish you to become more aware and not use such difficult methods thoughtlessly.

If you are afraid and in doubt, it is better to consult a specialist.

I wish you well and mutual love!

What to do if a girl doesn't answer: 4 possible strategies

Sent one more (not more) message

The simplest and surest way. Just don't attack her with accusations that she's ignoring you. Just ask how she's doing, or try changing the subject. Whatever you choose, remember that the main thing is to limit yourself to one message after an unanswered one, so as not to seem intrusive.

Apologize if necessary

Did you realize that you blurted out something wrong? Then find the strength to admit it and ask the girl for forgiveness for your mistake.

Wait

If a girl is out of your reach or is simply busy, then she will definitely answer you when she has the time and desire. Therefore, perhaps you should just wait a few days, and your correspondence will resume with renewed vigor.

Contact her in another way if possible.

Your communication was very warm, and you are puzzled that she disappeared without any explanation? We can assume that she has some kind of problem with the messenger you used.

If you are worried that something happened to her, you can try asking her a private message on another social network or one of her friends. However, if in this case you do not receive an answer, well... On the Internet, alas, this sometimes happens.

Author: Maria Minaeva

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1 Man ignores woman

2 What not to do if a man ignores you 2.1 1. Depression

2.2 2. Panic

2.3 3. Loss of reason

3 If a man ignores you, what to do 3.1 1. You need to determine the reason for ignoring

3.2 2. Take a break, take your mind off the problem.

3.3 3. Change

3.4 4. Become noticeable.

4 If a man ignores you, how to send him

And so, we continue. In the last article, we looked at the reasons why a man ignores you. The time has come to understand and decide what to do if a man ignores you and how to clean up all this crap that you got yourself into.

And so, what emerges from our minds:

try to come to an amicable agreement;
explain to him that you didn’t do all this on purpose, but because your head was full of shit instead of brains;
love him even more than before;
send further.

Of course, each situation is individual, and I cannot know the specifics of your relationship. Therefore, I give general recommendations, and you yourself choose what suits you best. But I know cases where people have established relationships again after being ignored. So you have a chance, and I hope my advice will help you with this.

Man, remember, while you are offending your woman, somewhere there is another man who writes to her that she is divine and invites her to marry!

Using my recommendations, the possibility that you will be together again will increase significantly. BUT, when starting to implement your plan, do not think about a hundred percent result. Be like a security officer with a cool head and a warm heart, and also with clear calculations. It will turn out well, but no, so fuck off. But you can do it. It is so?

Do you know what the biggest mistake women make is being ignored? They go to the Internet, look for advice from the same women with their snotty advice like “Oh, don’t worry, he’s either just playing with you, or he’s stupidly freaked out, he’ll move away and everything will work out.” The mistake here is that they give you hope. As a result, you lose your man and your self-confidence, dropping your self-esteem to the ground.

TEST: WHAT MAN IS SUITABLE FOR ME.

Signs that you are being ignored

You are always the first to start a conversation

To put it another way, a person never writes or calls you first. Any relationship, be it friendly, work or romantic, is like a two-way street. And for them to be rich and harmonious, both people must pay attention to each other. When this is not the case, or one begins to ignore the other, then conflicts, quarrels and misunderstandings arise.

The person starts to answer for a long time

Perhaps at the beginning of your relationship with this person everything was fine, but recently you began to notice that he takes too long to respond to messages, or does not respond at all. He communicates poorly with you, and you get the feeling that he is simply avoiding communication with you.

Man interrupts meetings

Perhaps when you are close to this person, his gaze is constantly glued to the phone. He constantly looks at his watch, and after a short time he says that he needs to leave. Arguing this by saying that an event occurred that was not part of his plans.

Man is always busy

The most popular tactic for ignoring people is to say, “I’m busy.” Yes, it may well be that a person has a lot to do due to study or work. His life cannot revolve only around you. But if this happens on a regular basis, then this is not normal. After all, if a person wants to spend time with you, he will find ways. And no matter how packed his schedule is. This behavior shows how interested he is in you.