How poor a person is: for us passions are grief, torment;
Without passion, life is not life, but boredom:
Love - and shed tears,
Be calm and yawn forever.”
N. Karamzin
When we think of stress, we think of traffic jams, unpaid bills, clutter at home, stressful situations at work, an avalanche of undone tasks, lack of understanding, crying children, and the list is endless. Undoubtedly, all this is the cause of our daily stress. But most importantly
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this is the relationship between a man and a woman, a misunderstanding that arises between two loving people in an ongoing situation.
Reluctance to give in to each other. Stress
- the catalyst for our quarrels, but the underlying cause of most conflicts is the very fact that men and women cope with it differently. Men and women respond to stress very differently, and these differences increase as stress increases.
Men and women not only have different reactions to stress, but also the types of support they need to relieve stress. One of the most important differences is the way they behave in stressful situations. Men tend to withdraw into themselves in order to “digest” the problem and the associated experiences alone, while women are simply overwhelmed by emotions. At such moments, men and women need completely different things to pull themselves together. It becomes easier for a man when he takes on the solution to a problem, and for a woman when she talks about it. Failure to understand and accept these differences creates unnecessary friction in our relationships.
How is stress measured in our body?
Scientists have proven that the level of stress in our body is measured by hormones, our body produces chemicals - hormones, which act as catalysts for chemical changes at the cellular level, affecting growth, development, energy, mood. When we are in love, we feel on top of the world. We are filled with energy. We are in a state of euphoria. We are burning with our new love. Our body produces hormones of joy and happiness. When these hormones are high at the beginning of a relationship, the pressure and hustle and bustle of everyday life are relegated to the background. When the charm of romantic novelty dissipates, the usual everyday life, worries, problems at work begin, the level of good mood hormones drops, and the level of stress hormones begins to rise. And problems arise in relationships.
Love gives us happiness hormones for about three years, free of charge, and when the honeymoon period ends, we have to earn them
HOW TO GET RID OF NEURASTENE WITH YOUR OWN STRENGTHS
It is possible to cope with neurasthenia without consulting a doctor, although this is quite difficult. However, it is worth remembering that self-correction is possible only in mild forms of the disorder. In severe cases, you cannot do without the help of a specialist.
A person who realizes that he has neurasthenia must radically change his life:
- leave work for a while. It is best to take a vacation or time off. The management should be warned that you need proper rest, so you will not answer phone calls. It is advisable to turn off your phone altogether and stop using the computer (don’t answer emails, forget about the existence of social networks);
- follow the daily routine. To restore strength, you will need to normalize your diet and sleep. With neurasthenia, a person experiences difficulty falling asleep; evening walks in the fresh air will help to cope with this;
- take a break for yourself. How exactly you relax depends on personal preference. This could be watching movies, reading books or traveling. It is important to choose an activity that brings you pleasure. But you should give up doing boring routine work for a while;
- give up your bad habits. Alcoholic drinks may seem like an excellent remedy for neurasthenia, but taking them only worsens the situation. Psychological problems do not disappear, but the physical condition worsens even more. The body is already weakened, there is no need to poison it even more with alcohol and cigarettes;
- increase the body's defenses. For this purpose, you can use traditional medicine. For example, tinctures of motherwort and valerian root will help you calm down, and berry mixtures, peppermint and verbena will help you restore strength. These and other traditional medicines are rich in vitamins, minerals and other beneficial microelements necessary for a depleted body. Herbal medicines do not have a negative effect, but they should be used cautiously by people suffering from various types of allergies.
The worst enemy of neurasthenia is rest. A rested person has the strength to fight this disease. The methods listed above can also serve to prevent the development of neuroses and other mental disorders associated with overwork.
No matter how important your job is, make time to do things you love, play sports, spend more time outdoors, and build relationships with family and friends.
The body's response to stress
Our body's response to stress is expressed in the levels of adrenaline and cortisol.
, these hormones are produced in our body by the endocrine gland - the adrenal glands. When we are in danger, the adrenal glands release adrenaline, cortisol and other hormones into the blood, giving a burst of energy and clarity of consciousness, senses become more acute, and physical strength and endurance increase. Adrenaline and cortisol perform a survival function in life and death situations. These hormones provided our ancestors with a survival mechanism in situations of danger. Either we will be saved, or we will be eaten.
But if we are in a state of continuous, severe stress, these hormones, continuing to be produced in the body, gradually destroy the immune system, energy reserves decrease, and the tendency to disease increases. Under the influence of prolonged stress, a person experiences feelings of anxiety or panic, which reduce our ability to experience happiness.
Mild depression weakens our passion.
The feeling of lack of time deprives us of tolerance and mental flexibility. Irritability overshadows the experience of love, gratitude and tenderness. Men lose interest in relationships, and women feel exhausted by endless hassles, lack of time and support. By understanding the common symptoms of chronic stress, we can understand why so many relationships are failing these days. By improving our relationship skills, we can transform the relationship itself from a source of additional stress to a way to deal with it.
MAIN SIGNS OF THE DISORDER
Very often, the “first signs” of a disorder are mistaken by a person for banal fatigue. But over time, these symptoms do not go away, and the malaise becomes more pronounced. Performance decreases, irritability increases, and depression may develop. This all makes life very difficult.
A timely visit to a doctor will allow you to get rid of neurasthenia quickly enough. It is important not to waste time and not let the pathology develop into more serious disorders. Therefore, it is worth familiarizing yourself with the main signs of neurasthenia:
- The most obvious sign of the disorder is excessive irritability. A person shows an extreme degree of dissatisfaction, is always embittered, and can become angry over the slightest reason. Most often, these attacks of rabies affect family members and friends.
- Neurasthenia makes any waiting unbearable. A person must get what he wants immediately; he simply cannot wait.
- Headaches occur and are localized in the temporal zone. The head begins to ache at the slightest mental stress.
- Consciousness becomes foggy, the perception of the world is disrupted, the flow of thoughts becomes inconsistent, and individual thoughts become abrupt.
- The ability to concentrate decreases. Doing usual things becomes burdensome, a person is constantly distracted by small things, and becomes overly fussy.
Symptoms of the disorder are almost the same in women and men. Differences may be observed only in some manifestations, but all patients note a feeling of fatigue, lack of strength and apathy.
Testosterone levels in men - what affects its production?
At the very beginning of a relationship, a man is excited and completely absorbed in the problem of how to win a woman’s love. This is a challenge that automatically stimulates testosterone
, providing a man with a sense of power and well-being. When testosterone levels are normal, he is full of energy, more attentive to his partner and feels attracted to her.
Gradually, everyday life begins, the challenge in the relationship weakens, and along with it, the man’s testosterone level decreases. When this happens, the honey period can be considered over, the man begins to look for ways to stimulate testosterone. Working outside the home almost always provides a man with new problematic situations that capture his attention and increase testosterone levels. Relationships change, passion wanes and preoccupation with “work” takes over.
TREATMENT OF THE DISORDER
Diagnosis is always preceded by diagnosis. The doctor must carefully examine the patient’s medical history, evaluate the symptoms and signs of pathology, and exclude other diseases.
In psychiatry, conversation is of great importance at all stages of working with a patient, but before making a diagnosis, laboratory and instrumental tests should be carried out. This is the only way to identify organic pathologies of the central nervous system, infectious or chronic diseases that may have manifestations similar to neurasthenia.
Correction of a mental disorder such as neurasthenia begins with identifying the causes of the disease. For healing, it is very important to eliminate negative factors that affect a person’s psycho-emotional state. Treatment of neurasthenia is complex, it is carried out in several directions at once:
- Drug treatment. The use of medications can reduce the patient’s anxiety and irritability and improve sleep. In addition, the doctor may recommend taking vitamin complexes and products that have a general strengthening effect on the body. The decision to prescribe medications is made in each case separately, based on the characteristics of the disease.
- Psychotherapy. Psychotherapeutic influence is decisive in the treatment of neurasthenia in both men and women. The most effective method is individual psychotherapy, but work can also be carried out in groups. During the sessions, the patient can understand and work through the causes of his illness, and learn to cope with stressful situations. A psychotherapist can use cognitive behavioral therapy, hypnosuggestive techniques, and biofeedback therapy (BFB therapy).
- Physiotherapy. Methods such as aromatherapy, reflexology, electrosleep, massage help to quickly restore strength and significantly improve the patient’s condition.
Non-traditional methods of treating mental disorders will also be useful. Communicating with animals, such as horses or dolphins, will help you relax and get into a positive mood. Music, drawing, and dancing have a positive impact.
The success of treatment largely depends on the patient himself, because only he himself can change his life for the better. An experienced psychotherapist will give the necessary recommendations, which will help restore the nervous system and get rid of the disorder.
The king of hormones is testosterone
Testosterone
The main male sex hormone, it is called the “king of hormones” and plays a key role in shaping a man’s sexual characteristics, including dominance, emotional and physical strength, body appearance, hair abundance, depth of voice, smell and sexual performance. This hormone also determines the degree of self-confidence and energy, competitiveness, intelligence and the ability to develop and implement new ideas.
Testosterone is normal, high and low
Throughout life, testosterone affects overall health. If testosterone is normal
, it is easier for him to cope with stress.
Testosterone levels increase
during acute stressful situations and can be expressed in increased aggressiveness.
But if stress is chronic, testosterone levels may decrease
. And the man becomes irritable, withdrawn, nervous, all this can turn into depression.
Normal testosterone levels
associated with a feeling of success. To feel good in a relationship, a man must know that he is able to provide his partner with everything she needs. Her response of trust, recognition and gratitude not only nourishes his soul, but also helps relieve stress by maintaining normal testosterone levels.
A man in love is constantly busy thinking about how to make his chosen one happy. Relationships serve as a challenge for him, creating a rise in positive emotions and increasing testosterone levels. When a man feels that he can get what he wants, testosterone production increases. And when he sees that he cannot achieve his plans and he cannot make his partner happy, his stress increases and his testosterone level drops.
Success and anticipation of success in a relationship contribute to the growth of testosterone in a man’s body and maintain his interest in a woman.
The connection between testosterone and men's self-confidence
The more successful or powerful a man feels in a relationship with a woman, the more consistently high testosterone levels he maintains. Self-confidence increases this level, and actions that stimulate the production of testosterone increase the feeling of self-confidence. These processes are interdependent. This is why gratitude and recognition are so important to a man's health.
REASONS FOR THE DEVELOPMENT OF NEURASTENIA AND TYPES OF DISORDER
Factors that can cause the development of neurasthenia are divided into several groups:
- biological. This category includes heredity, difficult pregnancy and childbirth, individual mental characteristics, a weakened body and the presence of physiological problems;
- psychological. Psychological trauma experienced by a person in childhood, including domestic violence, as well as stress and the need to perform unpleasant routine work for a long time;
- social. Difficult relationships within the family, difficult childhood, dissatisfaction with life. This group can also include communication with people who have a negative view of the surrounding reality.
Experts distinguish two forms of neurasthenia: hyposthenic and hypersthenic. In the first case, the patient experiences decreased performance, drowsiness and exhaustion, and increased fatigue. In the second, the person becomes hot-tempered, excitable, finds it difficult to fall asleep, and there is increased reactivity.
Neurasthenia can affect various physiological areas. Based on this, it is divided into types. This is how cerebral, cardiac, gastrointestinal and sexual neurasthenia are distinguished. As the name implies, in each of these types there is a malfunction of a certain body system or individual organ. In most cases, patients experience several types of neurasthenia at once, so this division is quite arbitrary.
What is Irritable Man Syndrome?
Emotional stress or stress
It is a well-known fact that fluctuations in the level of sex hormones affect a woman’s mood. This condition can also bother representatives of the stronger sex, which is associated with reduced testosterone levels. A deficiency of the main male hormone occurs during chronic stress and leads to the development of irritable man syndrome . Only the manifestations of this pathological condition are not similar to those of the fair half of humanity.
Manifestations of stress
One of the main problems of male stress is silence. Most guys are not inclined to talk about their experiences because they are afraid that it may be considered weak. Even going to the doctor for any reason is considered “unmanly” behavior. But if you do not notice the symptoms of stress for a long time, it will soon begin to directly affect your life:
- Loss of energy . Just yesterday you easily coped with the tasks that stood before you, but now you have neither the mood nor the strength. Stress is draining. Mental labor is no easier than physical labor.
- Sleep disorders . Sleep problems are not necessarily insomnia. They can be very different. The main task of sleep is to restore the body. And if it is not fulfilled, then this is a serious problem. Some people put off sleep not because they don’t want to sleep, but because they procrastinate.
- Behavior change . A man often gets irritated and begins to worry about many things. Some people lose their former circle of friends, while others become aggressive.
- Low self-esteem . A man cannot cope with what was previously easy, so he begins to feel inferior. This can only worsen professional and family problems.
With constant stress, a variety of diseases can manifest and progress. Many of them directly affect performance, reduce quality of life and even lead to death.